Lonely........

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Just wondering if anyone else is feeling lonely during their pregnancy?

I am 31wks & feeling increasingly lonely as the wks pass & it's starting to get me down

I feel like I have no one to turn to or to support me

I have a small family, my elderly Mum lives with me & won't stop smoking so we argue all the time. My sister & brother won't help me trying to make her stop or haven't asked if I can cope looking after her now or when the baby arrives as she has memory problems. I can't cope now i am so stressed & know I won't be able to look after her & a new baby yet neither have offered to help me.

My boyfriend & I currently don't live together & live on the opposite side to the city to each other & recently he wants to see less of me which up sets me

I only have a few friends & they don't live local to me

All of this has just left me feeling so alone & scares me that I won't have any support once the baby arrives & will be alone

I'm sorry you feel lonely. I felt similar but felt much better when baby had arrived.
Hope your situation gets better, are there not organisations who could provide support for your mum,? Xx

Can you explain to your siblings you can't cope? Perhaps they assume you can.
Why's your boyfriend acting this way - is he finding being a dad hard to accept?
I'd recommend joining some antenatal groups now if you can, or attend mother + baby groups once baby's here. You'll meet people and nice for baby too!
To answer your question yes I'm finding pregnancy a lonely experience. Nobody seems to think of inviting the pregnant friend to things!

I’m sorry this is so hard and stressful for you
In terms of being lonely, please make sure you use the resources available to you ; there will be feeding clubs, mum and baby groups and classes locally and lots of other mums feeling the same way (all with different circumstances).
Please make sure to speak to your midwife and health worker to find out what support there is for new mums in your local area, I promise you there will be things you can go to - even a cup of tea at the local mum and baby group for an hour might help you to feel connected and build friendships.
Get on google as well, have a look and start to think about what you can do when baby arrives to keep you out and about.

Right now make sure you tell people that you need help with your mum, she is not your sole responsibility and if it gets really bad please speak to your midwife, even just sharing your concerns with her may help.

It’s a lonely time in general I think, I’m lucky to have a good support network around me but I still have days where it feels really overwhelming and that I’m facing it all alone - after all we are the ones carrying the baby and the only one who has to deliver it!

Good luck and congratulations

Sorry I should have said - there will be antenatal classes at your hospital you can go to, also things like antenatal aqua aerobic classes in the local sports centre. Or antenatal Pilates etc.

Getting out of the house and spending some time focused on you and the baby with likeminded people for even an hour a day can make all the difference, you don’t have to wait until baby is here x

I feel the same. My family lives in a different country, most of my friends are scattered around the country, and my relationship is breaking down (he doesn't want the baby). He's being sullen and quiet and basically shit so I am at least emotionally on my own if not physically. I'd love to just move to my home country until the birth but I wouldn't have health coverage etc.