Not coping

[queenofkale]

I'm 20 weeks have a just turned 2 year old and I'm just not coping.

I've had really bad sickness and nausea (on my 3rd type of anti sickness drugs now) I just feel exhausted and awful. I feel like the worse I feel the worse DD behaves. The terrible 2s have hit with a vengeance. I feel so guilty the last 2 days she's watched so much tv and I think she's acting out for my attention.

My DM had a hysterectomy today and DMIL is undergoing cancer treatment. Although DH is supportive he works full time and I'm a SAHM. I just feel really alone and I honestly don't know how I'm going to cope with the rest of this pregnancy.

Does anyone have any tips for getting through it?

I can’t even comprehend what you’re going through at the moment, but didn’t want to read and run.

In terms of ‘quick fixes’ is there a local child minder/baby sitter service you could use to get a bit more down time at home? If they could take DD out for a run around the park or some sort of activity for a bit it might tire her out for a while.

If you’ve spoke to DH about how you’re feeling, could you ask if he could use a bit of leave maybe one day a week for a few weeks just so you get a bit of a break?

In the longer term, if the new sickness meds’ aren’t working, make sure you speak to the GP again until you find something that works for you.

With everything you’ve got going on I’m not surprised you feel overwhelmed. You’re doing amazingly well.

I think you should bring up your feelings with your midwife as she might have suggestions of groups that could help. If you’re next appointment isn’t for a while, I’d consider contacting Mind www.mind.org.uk. I spoke to a counsellor when I was having anxiety a few years ago and even in a few phone sessions it really helped. It’s not for everyone but might be worth just having an impartial, non-judgemental person to vent your worries to.

I hope your DM and DMIL are both on the road to recovery