DP isn't giving me a break (40wks) FTM

[Jsucks44]

My partner isn't giving me a break, I feel he doesn't understand that at 40 weeks pregnant I can't do all the things around the house that I used to. I do everything except vacuuming but am finding it harder now. We are constantly arguing then for a couple of days we will be fine before it all starts up again. I feel drained and not supported at all. Please help

It’s not really up to him to give you a break, you just take the break. If things don’t get done, then he needs to pick up the slack. If he doesn’t, don’t have anymore kids with him.

Well he sounds lovely and supportive how are things going to be when the baby arrives?!
Stop doing things and rest, that’s the important thing just now for you, housework can wait and he can get on with it! Tell him to stick the hoover up his arse

I would stop acting like my partner is my boss and start treating myself like a 40 week pregnant woman... he needs to either help out or understand shit isn't getting don't and it also sounds like he needs to do his research into how hard it is for a human body to create another human body!!! It's not just carrying a peanut inside your stomach for 9 month's-_-

My partner won't even let me carry the shopping bags or clean as he wants me to rest because he knows how important it is (and he's not a dick)

I would either LTB if he continues to be selfish or suck it up and understand you will never be treated fairly.

You didn’t discuss this kind of thing before you got pregnant? You had better sit him down now and make it clear that he will be doing almost everything when the baby arrives or say goodbye to your relationship. Not that that would be a bad thing. Why would you want to be with someone who expects you to act like a slave?

Agree with others, why are you waiting for him to give you permission to have a break? Honestly things may get a whole lot harder once the baby comes so you really need to get a handle of this now if at all possible. Sit him down and explain to him that now there is a baby imminent he really needs to step up to the plate and start pulling his weight. This may mean that he is doing the majority of the housework or whatever else required whilst you may be heavily pregnant, recovering from birth or just busy with the baby.

@Jsucks44 I agree with what the others have said. If you need to rest, take a rest. The housework usually goes to pot at this stage for that very reason. I'm surprised you can even bend well enough to clean! If he kicks off, show him where the supplies are (apologise and explain if you think you need to, jus to keep the peace). Is he always so oblivious?

Oh dear. He sounds utterly clueless.

1.) Take the breaks you need. Stuff doesn't get done around the house? Stuff doesn't get done.

2.) Tell him how difficult things are, how in pain you are and physically drained. Be as open as possible about all the icky and uncomfortable stuff your body is going through right now. Drop stuff into conversation. Some people genuinely are that clueless and naive. Do not pull a brave face. Be honest.

3.) If he's still bothered explain you physically can't do stuff. If he wants the housework done, he can do it himself or hire a cleaner.