Announcing pregnancy to parents - what is "fair"

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Just that really.

I'm almost 10 weeks and have our 12 week scan booked on the 1st August. (We have already had an 8 week reassurance scan).

Me and my OH are having arguments about when to tell parents. It's mums birthday a week after the scan and I had hoped to tell her then as it will be a nice birthday present.

However my in laws live 3 hours away and there is something in their house we are allergic to. I don't want to go over there as there isn't anything I can take (or at least I don't think there is?) should I get wheezy, sneezy and itchy eyed so I suggest having a meal at a pub and dress it up as a flying visit. OH does not like this idea.

OH said to wait until they next visit us and I have no idea when that will be as they are busy people. I don't want to keep hiding it :(

What should I do to make it fair?

Honestly you won't care who you told when further down the line. We just told parents when we saw them. We told OH's parents at around 13 weeks when they were visiting (mothers day). Then we told my parents at around 16 weeks when we were visiting them (birthday). Nobody cared who knee first - everyone is old enough to not be so immature! I actually told a couple of work colleagues before any of my family (apart from OH obv) as they are the ones I see and work with day in day out. Then I told a couple of close friends by 9 weeks. Then at 12 weeks my brother and sister in law. Parents were the last to know but are so excited it isn't a big deal... or any sort of deal!

I think telling your parents at birthday sounds lovely and your OH can grow up a bit. If he wants to tell his parents in person that's fine and he can make that happen.

I'd never considered what was fair. I was on holiday with my parents when we found out and I told my dad while we were on holiday, but didn't tell my mum until later (and wouldn't have told her then if it wasn't for the fact they were staying at ours when we got a call to go for a very early scan and had no other way to explain why we had to rush 20 miles away straight away).

We told in laws when I was about 4 months. Surely not everyone has to be told at the same time?