Pregnancy is so lonely!

[Wiggle4]

Anyone else think pregnancy is ridiculously lonely??

We did lose out first baby through still birth at 24 weeks in November and I don't know if that's making it worse but I just feel so alone with my feelings!

Have you talked to someone?

Please do if you haven't to -
www.sands.org.uk/

www.tommys.org/pregnancy-information/pregnancy-complications/pregnancy-loss/stillbirth-information-and-support

Both Sands and Tommy's have helplines.

I have and have had counselling.

It's the daily worries that are so lonely. Because of what has happened before I am paranoid that something is wrong even with no good reason to think so but my OH just says that we have no reason to think anything is wrong so why worry

I miscarried and gave birth at 20 weeks last year and like you have had counselling. I'm now 12 weeks and just not enjoying it at all. My DP keeps saying it will be fine and I just think aghh but you don't know that. Hope it gets easier for us x

Fingers crossed for you too @StripesandSpots1, hopefully this time all will be well. I'm 18 weeks on Friday but I just know this is when everything was going wrong without me knowing last time

I feel the same after two MMC last year . It’s so hard to let yourself enjoy it and feel happy incase something goes wrong and I agree, there’s no one that really understands these feelings so it is very lonely.

One day at a time is my new motto. I don't think the worry will go until baby is safely here

Hi wiggle. Why don’t you come and chat on the December 2018 group over on the ante natal club board?

We’ll listen to all your worries :)

I’m sorry to hear about your loss :(

Hi wiggle,
Sorry you are feeling like this and also really sorry to hear about your loss. I also found pregnancy ridiculously lonely so you’re definitely not alone.

I can well remember feeling worlds apart from other pregnant ladies excitedly talking about their pregnancies and buying baby things. I didn’t feel able to talk about it or about my worries about it things going wrong as felt it was inappropriate to spoil everyone else’s excitement so just kept it to myself which made me feel even more alone.

I’m sure your previous experience has made it worse which is totally understandable. I don’t know what the answer to the feeling lonely is as I didn’t find an answer, but I hope it’s of some comfort to know you’re not alone.

Thank you @EarlGreyT
I wish my OH could experience even some of it. I think just by the nature of pregnancy it must be lonely for everyone at one time or another.
Everyone is so excited for us and some don't seem to understand why my excitement isn't the same this time. I just want to get to the end and be holding my baby that's it