My older sister has been trying to conceive for 4 years now. She is almost 40 and they are starting fertility treatment at the moment. During this time I have given birth to my dc. She really struggled when I was pregnant and made some very snide remarks along the way, despite knowing I had had a late miscarriage a few months before. I tried to be patient as I understood how much she would have liked to be having a baby too. However since I had the baby she has been very supportive and loves my dc very much. I know it's not easy for her, and have tried to encourage her to be as involved as she wants to be. In recent months I think struggling to conceive has become even more difficult. She has found it impossible to visit the babies of her close friends and has broken down about how much she wants one of her own on numerous occasions. I feel so desperate for her and wish there was something I could do to help. Anyway fast forward to this morning and I've discovered I'm pregnant again. I had an early miscarriage last month which we did not tell anyone about, and we decided not to try again for a few months. So to realise I'm pregnant has been a total surprise. Obviously it's early, but my first thought was how will I tell my sister without causing her more pain or distress. I don't want her to be the last to know, but equally I don't want to cause her anymore pain. Can anyone offer me some advice on how to handle this? I think it is inevitable she will be upset by the news, but I want to handle this as sensitively as possible. Thanks for your help.