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Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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Pregnant and worried

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Jenswish · 27/05/2007 21:01

I've been on the DUE IN NEW YEAR THREAD but no-one there and I can't get the thought's out of my head so someone tell me this is normal.

I had a MC 2 years ago. We had a scan at 7wks and then wen we went back for the 12 wk scan baby had died.

Am now preg again and can't stop panicking. I'm getting alot of brown discharge, stomach cramps.

I can't let myself think about the baby, I had some bleeding a few days ago and my immediate thought was oh well, i've lost this one aswel. I had ago at my DP today for not being involved and then had to stop myself cos he's more involved than I want to be.

I can't go to the docs cos I'm not registered yet (registering on Tuesday) but at the same time, I don't want to go for a scan or anything in case baby is ok this time but dies somewhere in between?

Someone tell me I'm not nuts and this is normal?

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scorpio1 · 27/05/2007 21:07

you should get checked really, because of your history.

Can you go to EPU? i'm sure its ok, just needs checking

sideways · 27/05/2007 21:07

Jen - no advice I'm afraid but didn't want you to feel ignored. There have been quite a few threads recently about bleeding in early pregnancy if you want to do a search .

lulumamasmentee · 27/05/2007 21:08

Oh hun, didn't want to read and run but I have no good advice as I have no experience of this.

I'm sure somebody will be along to reassure you soon. (((((hugs))))))

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Jenswish · 27/05/2007 21:09

I'm not so worried about the bleeding in early pg cos so many people get it and so many people are fine through it. A girl at work is preg and she bled loads in the beginning and she's about to drop now.

I'm just worried if I'm like this now am I ever going to accept it?

BTW, what's EPU and where would I find one?

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beansprout · 27/05/2007 21:10

How you are feeling is very understandable. I'm sure there is very little anyone can do to take your fears away. If you are worried about the current discharge, it might be a good idea to follow scorpio's advice and go to the EPU. If you do, have a talk with them about your previous m/c and how you are feeling.

Early pregnancy is an incredibly anxious time, esp so given your history. Please take care of yourself

beansprout · 27/05/2007 21:11

Early Pregnancy Unit. Google will tell you where the nearest one is. If you can't find one, you can always contact A&E, they can see you and refer you to obs & gyne.

mummytosteven · 27/05/2007 21:13

EPU is the early pregnancy unit, which I imagine would be at your local maternity unti. I agree with scorpio, about being checked out, to rule out (very small!) possibility of an ectopic PG.

I have not been in your situation, but I really think it would be normal to be very very anxious about subsequent PGs. I had an ectopic scare (but all was OK) when I was PG, I started feeling better once I could feel the baby moving.

BeachBunni · 27/05/2007 21:14

EPU is early pregnancy unit. If you goggle it you should find one in your area. It's usually in the main maternity hospitals. Hope you're ok, you must be really worried.

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Jenswish · 27/05/2007 21:15

So should I take a trip to my local hospital then as they are the nearest maternity unit and where I wuld be giving birth if all goes to plan.

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beansprout · 27/05/2007 21:15

I would call them and see what they say.

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Jenswish · 27/05/2007 21:17

Thanks, will google and find the number. If I went and they insisted on a scan could I make them not tell me anything? Just cos I don't want the same to happen.

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beansprout · 27/05/2007 21:19

Jenswish - are you saying that you don't want to hear that the baby is ok, in case something goes wrong? Or have I got confused?

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Jenswish · 27/05/2007 21:21

That's kinda what I mean, I wanna know it's ok but I don't want to go through seeing the heartbeat and baby on screen etc. I wanna know all is ok so that I can relax a bit but I don't want to see........... does that make any sense?

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beansprout · 27/05/2007 21:24

It does make sense, I do understand what you are saying, but this is not the last pregnancy and it's incredibly likely to be ok. This is clearly a very anxious time for you. Can you talk to someone at the hospital about it? Someone there will understand. A lot of women in your circumstances would feel the same way.

beansprout · 27/05/2007 21:24

There are also a number of pregnant after m/c threads on here where there will be MNers who really understand how you feel. Have you posted on any of those?

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Jenswish · 27/05/2007 21:27

I'm sure it would be but I can't make my mind believe that. I'm still stuck on the old pg....

I'm trying to be more upbeat about it but I think it's a safety mechanism so I don't get upset.

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shonaspurtle · 27/05/2007 21:28

Here's a website which might help you find your nearest Early Pregnancy Unit. You should be able to self-refer and they will have staff who are experienced at counselling people in your situation and who hopefully will be able to help you.

I had bleeding at the same stage of pregnancy as you and all was well. It must be very, very hard though when you've gone through such heartache with your previous loss.

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Jenswish · 27/05/2007 22:09

There is one at my hospital so I think I'll see if I can contact them tomorrow.

Thanks for your help guys

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scorpio1 · 28/05/2007 09:52

How are you today?

DaisysGotSausageFeet · 28/05/2007 10:03

Jenswish...sorry to hear about your bleeding...I had 2 Mcs before my current (38wk) pg and had some spotting early on with this one. I self referred to the EPU because of the previous mcs and thankfully everything was OK, but it didn't stop me being worried at all through the early weeks.

Theres a really good support thread on here where we've all been in the same situation. Come and talk to us if you feel the need.

I hope that you can see someone and set your mind at rest. Good Luck

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Jenswish · 28/05/2007 13:21

Feeling abit better, spoke with DP and we've decided that seeing as there is nothing they could do if I was MCing (although no red blood for a few days now) then we would rather wait for the 12wk scan as normal.

He's registering me at the docs tomorrw and when he went to get the forms they said they could set up a quick apt if needed and he just had to tell them when he gave it in so with any luck I'll be able to get an apt before the end of the week, early next week.

I worked out this morning that i'll be about 8 weeks gone now so not too long to wait for the scan.

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