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Pregnancy after 2 miscarriages

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Embobolina88 · 11/07/2018 09:29

Morning!

Just found out I’m 4 weeks pregnant! I have an almost 3 year old but have had 2 miscarriages over the last couple of years- first at 12 weeks- baby literally fell out of me/ it was horrendous. and the second I found out at 9 that there was a yolk sack only- no baby.

Anyone else pregnant following miscarriages? How are you keeping sane And calm?!

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purplesmiler · 11/07/2018 09:40

I am 10 weeks pregnant and had a MC previously at just over 10 weeks so I am at a particularly anxious stage. The reality is you don't stop worrying but it's about trying to not allow it to take over everything. Look after yourself and talk when you are feeling worried. It's something we can't control which makes it harder.

Vuduvu · 12/07/2018 21:15

Hi Embobolina, I’m 4+4 after 2 miscarriages - a few days ago I was feeling pleased at managing to get pregnant again the first cycle after the last miscarriage but now the anxiety is setting in. I just can’t imagine a pregnancy ever working out for me as all I’ve had so far are losses :( Sorry that’s not very helpful is it, but just to let you know I’m in the same boat!

I’m so sorry to hear about your losses, that sounds incredibly difficult especially the first one xx

Emmafh3 · 12/07/2018 21:53

I'm somewhere between 6 and 7 weeks pregnant immediately after 2 mc (one in Feb one in May)
Amazed I got pregnant so fast with all three cases!
The worrying meant about 20 tests in the first few weeks. Did one today for the first time in a while.
Feels like forever but in reality not long has passed!
Dd keeps me occupied, and just cleaning and now napping 🤞

Funnily enough exercise keeps me sane and talking to bub but terrified of the jinx or stress of them. Coming to terms with what will be will be, the other two were difficult and horrible and I wouldn't wish mc on anybody, but at the end of the day, they clearly weren't meant for this earth. Nothing I can do about it. Out of my hands!

Fingers crossed for all!

FuckMyUterus · 13/07/2018 07:41

I've had several losses, all before 12 weeks. I'm now 11 weeks, with what looks like a perfectly healthy baby! Just try and relax, take your vitamins, stay off the caffeine, and drink plenty. That's all you can really do to help the baby hang on :)

EvaGraceMummy2015 · 13/07/2018 07:49

I'm 24+1 with twins! I have a healthy 3 year old and have previously had 2 missed miscarriages, one at 8 weeks and one at 10 so you can imagine how anxious I was going for my scan this time at 9 weeks (I'd sort of already made my mind up that there was going to be no heartbeat again) but when the ultrasound tech told me all was ok, well more than ok because there were 2 little heartbeats I was over the moon 😊 twins are growing healthy, always been exact to due date and fingers crossed will stay that way!
Just wanted to share my experience as I know how you may be feeling, keep calm (as much as you can 🙈) and keep the faith xxx

HidCat · 13/07/2018 08:16

Morning ladies - 5wks along after a MC in January at 11weeks. Constantly on knicker watch, resisting the urge to book and early scan and it's on my mind 24/7. Hopefully this will be a straightforward ride for all of us!

angel0071987 · 13/07/2018 09:01

@Vuduvu I'm in exactly the same boat as you. Currently 4+5 and have had a chemical and two m/c this year alone. Conceived straight after my last m/c. So tentatively hoping.

FuckMyUterus · 13/07/2018 09:09

hidcat oh I'm sorry to see you here, I recognise you from the pregnancy thread I was on with my last miscarriage that ended in February! Hope things go really boringly for you this time!

Pipeup · 13/07/2018 09:16

Miscarriages unfortunately are really common I've had 8 in total my first at 12 weeks and so i know how horrendous it is. I've got a 2 year old dd and had 2 miscarriages since her birth both around the 6 week mark. I'm now 9 weeks pregnant again and like you I'm so nervous and anxious every day I haven't let myself believe that the pregnancy will result in a baby but what I am trying to do is enjoy every day I am pregnant and be thankful that I have got this far. I'm keeping an eye on my pregnancy symptoms trying to reduce stress and generally just trying to take it easy. Like others have said it's something that can't be controlled and I know you are worried but try have keep some hope and remember a miscarriage should it happen is not your fault Flowers

HidCat · 13/07/2018 09:31

@FuckMyUterus thank you and likewise! Trying to keep my crazy at bay lol.

@Pipeup I'm sorry to hear you've had to go through this so many times. Hope this one is uneventful for you.

Mousefunky · 13/07/2018 11:36

I had two missed miscarriages last year at 11 and 12 weeks. This pregnancy has been the most anxiety ridden imaginable. I tried my best to think negatively during the first trimester so it wouldn’t be such a shock to receive bad news at the dating scan. We were so, so surprised to see a happy and healthy baby in there.

I’m 23+5 now and all is well but I still have constant anxiety that something will go wrong. Just want the next 16 weeks to hurry up so he can be born and hopefully my anxiety will end!

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Embobolina88 · 16/07/2018 07:22

How’s everyone doing?

Now 5 weeks- promised myself I was staying relaxed about this one but already ticking off weeks.

Feeling slightly swollen (down
There) . And went a fairly long walk yesterday (google told me walking can actually decrease chance of miscarriage- conflicting info on everything but figured it helps keeping healthy?!) I’m aching today though around my back and tummy/ like cramps- trying to
Remind myself this is normal in early pregnancy instead of regretting the long walk. Hate this paranoia!!!!

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FuckMyUterus · 16/07/2018 08:04

I'm still here... 11+4 and have my consultant appointment today. Super nervous, have my 12 week scan next week too.

Markygirl1995 · 16/07/2018 08:16

Hiya! I've experience this, I miscarried in December I reckon I must've been 8/9 weeks when to Disney Paris for the weekend came back and was heavily bleeding I had an incomplete miscarriage. Decided that we would try again and next thing we knew I'm pregnant with my rainbow baby! Didn't have a period in between doctors didn't believe me had a scan and found I was 6/7 weeks had another at 8/9 and there was a strong heartbeat looked up the miscarriage chances and look very good for us as the risk of miscarriage was dropping and now 27 weeks Wednesday couldn't be happier!! Hope all goes well for you and this little one!

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Embobolina88 · 18/07/2018 10:45

@fuckmyuterus how did you get on yesterday? I haven’t even booked mine yet- they say 8/9 weeks do they? I’m
Jealous your scan is
So soon, 12 weeks feels like forever away.

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Embobolina88 · 18/07/2018 10:48

@pipeup thank you, I can’t imagine going through as many as you have. I’m really struggling to remain positive and sane. Congratulations, 9 weeks! Really hope this goes well for you.

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Vuduvu · 18/07/2018 11:28

5+3 now and feeling nauseous on and off... trying not to obsess about symptoms and whether I’ve had more or less than the day before, and I think I’m doing quite well at staying calm. Every time I think about having a scan I feel absolutely terrified though!

@embobolina88 I sometimes have pelvic cramps as well, I’ve definitely read in a few places that it can be normal to have a bit of pain, not anything to worry about unless there is bleeding!

@fuckmyuterus hope your consultant appointment went well

@angel0071987 fingers crossed for both of us. How are you doing this week?

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Embobolina88 · 18/07/2018 11:32

I’m sorry I didn’t mean to miss anyone- juggling toddler and my day off cleaning... and my stressing. Agh. It’s not painful, just feels sort of swollen and full... I think it’s normal- from my obsessive googling. Will definitely mention at my booking appointment in a few weeks though.

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angel0071987 · 18/07/2018 12:14

@Vuduvu struggling today with nausea and extreme tiredness. DS got me up at 5.30 today so trying to nap when he does now (easier said than done with all the tidying up after him required!). Seem to be worse in the evenings which is great for functionality during day with toddler but not so much for poor hubby who sees me for about 2hrs before I crash!
Showing much sooner than with DS although I know it's not proper bump just bloating but I certainly look it now. Plus struggling over an uti. But dr finally gave me antibiotics as weighed up benefit over risk so making rapid improvement now.

Decided to wait until 6weeks to tell anyone/parents and to call midwife. So nearly there. Just counting days and constantly knicker watching.

How about you?

(Sorry about the big moan!)

FuckMyUterus · 18/07/2018 16:20

I got on quite well, been given Clexane injections for my entire pregnancy as they think I have a clotting disorder that has caused my past losses. I'm getting beyond scared for my scan next Monday, have the scan at 9am and then a little wait and a haematology appointment at 11.20,so I'll be at the hospital most of the day :(

HidCat · 18/07/2018 18:19

@FuckMyUterus keeping everything crossed that they're right and your scan goes well.

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Embobolina88 · 18/07/2018 19:26

@fuckmyuterus glad you got on ok today! Everything crossed for you next week. Sending lots of positive vibes your way!

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CobaltRose · 18/07/2018 19:40

I'm currently six weeks pregnant after losing a pregnancy at six weeks in April (well, I thought I was 12 weeks, but a scan revealed baby had died at six weeks). I'm super anxious but trying to take it one day at a time.

I've booked an early scan for next week, which will hopefully alleviate some of my anxiety. Perhaps you could book an early scan too?

Congratulations and good luck! Flowers

Vuduvu · 26/07/2018 12:11

I've had a rubbish week - had a big bleed on Friday (I passed out in the toilets at London Zoo!) and have been convinced that my symptoms have been getting less all week, less nauseous, boobs not as sore etc.

My EPU at the weekend said that they wouldn't scan me til 7 weeks, which is this Sunday, but I phoned up again today and begged them and on the scan was a little embryo with a good heartbeat, measuring 6w5d! I couldn't believe it, was so convinced I'd miscarried again. Looks like the cause of the bleed was a small subchorionic haematoma.

Of course it didn't take long for the anxiety to come back, and now googling likelihood of miscarriage after seeing HB at 6-7 weeks....

Hope everyone else is doing ok this week. @fuckmyuterus and @cobaltrose hope your scans went well x

HidCat · 26/07/2018 12:35

@Vuduvu so pleased for you. Fingers crossed the worst is over.