Did anyone make any friends at NCT/Antenatal/Pregnancy Exercice classes?

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Just that really.

I don’t really have many friends and one that’s meant to be one of my closest is being a bellend

I was hoping to make some new “Mum” friends through different group but has anyone actually made long term friends this way?

Yes, two of my NCT group are now very good friends, we see each other at least weekly if not more.

Yes. 3 good friends. I'm now godmother to the latest baby from one of them.

Ah that’s great to hear!

I’m still in early pregnancy but I want to try and get involved in that sort of stuff as much as possible

Yes, at NCT and antenatal aquafit. All good and decent people, and a lifesaver in those very early days, weeks and months. 10 years on I have lost touch with a few, and I would not now describe any of them as best/lifelong friends, although I know that these friendships exist within the group.

However, I did make some amazing, lifelong, “best” friends once DS was born at local mum/baby groups. The deep seated friendships (rather than friendly aquaintances) began to emerge once everyone started going back to work, rather than seeing each other at the same groups/ activities each week.

Yes I made some at ante natal classes but the best was the first time Mum group (I think names were put forward through GP/Health Visitors so maybe ask about it there). I’m not sure if they still do it now but that was excellent.

I found that we all met up fairly regularly for the first year while everyone was off work and now a further year down the line, we’re not in contact at all although we’re friends on Facebook.

Yes I am not in touch with any of them anymore other than FB but but two or three of them in the early days were excell my friends and helped me hang onto my sanity.
An ex work colleague is still very food friends with some NCT friends she met when her children were young. She is 60 this year and they have recently attended each other’s children’s weddings.

Pregnancy yoga was good for making friends for me. Dd is almost 14 and we are still in touch.

I unfortunately got a small not group I did not gel with I didn't have a bugaboo. I'm still in contact with one 4years on but only for playdates.
I feel a bit put out about it. Maybe it's just me, I am a bit prickly. 🤔
I know several people who went on to make some good friends.

Yes, we're still in touch five years later. Not close now, but they were brilliant during that first year. We still like to check in and see how everyone is doing.

Not at antenatal classes but through the parenting groups at the local surestart centre, and playgroups. We went to everything together and we're really close friends six years later. I'd recommend finding out your local baby groups asap and speak to parents with similar aged babies. You're more likely to have common ground with first time mums if your babies are the same age - you can whinge together!

My original NCT group were fab... six of us originally and we picked up two more at swimming lessons/baby group. Made one very close friend and still meet up regularly with all the others, although mostly with those who are SAHM or on mat leave with their second babies. Found that we met up lots in the first year with the babies but it was only when we started meeting in the evenings for meals that we really started to get to know each other. I've also found preschool good for making friends, when the birthday parties start in earnest around age 4 you get chatting and get to know the other parents more. Congrats on you pregnancy and good luck :)

I totally failed to make friends at antenatal classes or pregnancy yoga - there were nice people there and we chatted but no one (including me and DH) could seem to quite take the initiative to swap numbers to meet up again. I do a bit regret not doing NCT, as the friendship bit there seems to be more forced and so reliable - there were three couples (out of eight) in my NHS classes who knew each other from NCT and they were very friendly (/cliquey) and clearly had each others' numbers, etc. My husband did point out that they were also all twats, but I think that was the cliqueyness not an inherent quality! I am a bit worried (due next week) about not having any mum friends at all, and am going to have to figure out a way to be better at doing the friendship making thing at baby groups etc.!

Two at an exercise class. But now both are being really vile since they've found out I'm going back to work in a couple of months, so I've cut all contact.

Yep, from NCT classes especially. I've just dropped a gaggle of our assorted kids off to High School for their transfer day.

Three of my NCT group are now three of my closest friends and we meet up anywhere between once and five times per week. We also meet up at times with husbands and have evenings or child free afternoons out.

I made no lasting friends from yoga.

I have a 6 month old, I’d say the friends from nct are totally situation specific and really valuable. We tend to communicate a lot via WhatsApp but do meet up as well. We’re all quite different, but definitely in it for the social support so all rub along fine. I didn’t go wanting friends, but did recognise I would really value other people having the same experience at the same time!

Classes I see people but I’m not great at taking relationships beyond friendly acquaintance. I have quite a wide social circle and family support, so I probably don’t have the impetus or the energy to maintain relationships beyond the nct group.

Yes, a group of about 8 of us. But, after our babies were born, there was a mother and baby morning at the same place, at our gp's, so it was easy for us to transition from antenatal to postnatal meetings. It was a good idea of our gp's surgery and we were really inclusive and welcoming of new mums, not cliquey at all.

My NCT buddies from two years ago have just had a big get together for our babies' second birthday! We're all setting off on maternity leave again together in the autumn. I'm isolated from friends and family where I live too and high recommend it for a support network as I struggle to relax/make friends in more informal group settings!

My antenatal group got on really well and five years on I'm still good friends with three of them (we all meet up - 9 families - every year though for birthdays, just drifted a bit from the rest).

Also made friends at yoga and a church playgroup once I had them.

I did aquanatal and made friends with a group of ladies there, we're still in touch now and our DC are 3.

Yes nct :) great friends , our weekends have been full of all of our babies 3rd birthdays.

Does 35 years count as long term?

There were 8 of us at our NCT classes. Two moved away but the reamining 6 of us do all still meet up. Not every week but usually at least once a month, Our children are now 3 and a half. Last Friday we spent it in a hot tub at one of our houses with a bbq! MY DS also goes to nursery with one of the girls and they are really good friends. I'd do the classes - if nothing else you get to prepare for the birth!

Yes! I get on very well with all of my NCT group mums. Whilst on maternity leave we met up regularly but it did slow down once people went back to work. However, we're in contact with each other on WhatsApp almost daily and meet up whenever we can. I also made a couple of good friends through a baby group (up to 1 year old) I went to regularly and still see them now (DS is now 2).