@K1989 , sadly there is very little you can do to control childbirth. Your body will do what it needs to do, sometimes intervention is required.
Let I will tell you my story.
I was so scared of a c-section. With me, my mum was 10 days overdue, induced. in labour 36 hours. They were close to doing a c-section. I was told not to worry, these things hardly ever happen.
I ended up having a c-section at 41w5days. And do you know what? It was all fine. Recovery was longer than with friends who delivered vaginally, and I had comments from idiots who thought I hadn't given birth.
But I had my baby, we bonded, we breastfed and it was wonderful. And at the end of it all, I couldn't have cared less how he came into the world, just that he was in it.
It was so amazing, I went on to do it another three times (for medical reasons rather than emergency). After 4 sections my stomach/abs are wrecked. But I don't care. My eldest is now 9, and it doesn't make any difference how he or any of the other babies came into the world.
I hope that this helps alleviate some of your fears.
A side note, a lot of my friends did hypnobirthing and loved it.