Pregnant and nervous!

[DorisDays]

Hi all, I'm just out of the first trimester and I so want this baby. But...I'm terrified! Of all the things that can go wrong. I'm frightened this will be taken away from me. How do I stop dwelling on all the bad stuff that can potentially happen?

The chances of miscarriage are very low now you are past 13 weeks. Of course there are many many things that can go wrong but the overall risks of something life changingly bad are low. Try to remember that your own mental well-being is important to your health, your ability to care for the baby and so it’s health. Once baby is here the worry only gets worse - it is the curse of being a parent. You have to find a way to cope and find balance. Maybe meditation might help? Or walks? Or talking to someone?

Thank you for the reassurance. Yes, I need to take all of this advice on board before I become a total nervous wreck

I'm the same @DorisDays I feel so anxious all the time.
I thought I'd feel better once I got to 12 weeks but every post I read on here features the dreaded 'M' word.

I'm trying to put things into context and realise that most people only come in forums like this when they've had problems so it's highlighted on here. Most people go through pregnancy without issue and you just don't hear about those because there's nothing to report.

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Posted too soon!!

I did see on a website that after 12 weeks there is a 99% chance of a success so we need to cling on to that thought.

Thank you @MarthaMe I've also noticed all the threads about the unthinkable happening and they have definitely increased my anxiety. Feels like a long road ahead eh?

It's adding to my anxiety too. DH tells me not to look at this forum anymore but I like reading and learning stuff on here, just wish I could filter out the negative bits then I'd be fine!!

I've just been to make my first baby purchase which has made me feel more positive. Just a little baby grow & a soft toy. I know a lot of mn think it's too early to buy things (judging from another thread I started) but I want to be doing things that feel right for me, and that feels like a positive step

Hi first of all, Congratulations.

Your chance of miscarriage is incredibly low just make sure you take it easy and no heavy lifting etc. And you should be fine.

Honestly don’t stress it’s not good for you or baby and hopefully in a couple of months time you’ll be able to monitor the movements.

Good luck!

Thanks @Browneyesxx

@MarthaMe I think it sounds like a great idea to do positive things. I've been scared to but logically all that does is just reinforce the fear that something might go wrong ('tempting fate' etc) Maybe thinking positively and crossing each bridge as we come to it is the right way forward xx

You have to do what feels right for you I guess.
If the worst did happen then it wouldn't hurt any more if I'd bought things or not.
I'd be crushed either way.

Try to think positively, I promise I'll do the same 😊

I'll try

I know the anxiety well, and I do think easing up on reading too many stories on the internet is a good idea (easier said than done though, I know!)

I reckon, understandably, people having problems post more online on average than those having more straightforward pregnancies. So it can skew your perception of how common some problems are.

For the record, there's no need to take it easy OR avoid lifting what you would normally lift, and everyday stress won't affect your baby at all. A healthy pregnancy is very very resilient to everyday life.