Worried I'm going to miscarry due to constant stress

[sweetiehuni]

I've been very stressed lately due to a number of things that I'd rather not list. I've gotten quite worked up over the past few days, tears, shaking, anger and I feel so worried about the affect this might be having on my baby :( did anyone else go through a stressful time pregnant and did you have strategies to deal with it? So far I am trying to sit quietly and just breathe and think about my baby.

I didn't go through much stress. But have been stressed with every pregnancy. Our bodies are amazing at dealing with stress hormones and it is soooo hugely unlikely that it would cause a mc. But always good to breath and relax anyway!
I always find loud music, cleaning, or a run helps me 😊
Hopefully things settle soon for you!

It’s not affecting the baby. Babies are extremely well insulated and there’s no decent science showing that normal stress harms them. You will read a lot of dodgy science about cortisol but baby and maternal levels are not linked in a straightforward way (ie it’s not the case that a bit of stress raises foetal cortisol levels and harms the baby.)

It’s inportant for your own health to manage stress - so do whatever you need to to do that, but don’t worry about your baby - they are absolutely not affected by it.

Yes I had a VERY stressful pregnancy. My Dd1 died when I was pregnant with Dd2
Dd2 was born on her due date fit and healthy. I don't really know how I coped, just got through each day.

I believe the only proof scientists found of stress causing miscarriage was in women that lived in war zones. That’s the level of stress you need to feel in order to miscarry and even then you probably wouldn’t.

Miscarriage mostly happens due to a chromosomal issue. I’ve had two and that’s how they were explained to me. I’ve also had three DC and went through a lot of stress when I was pregnant with DC1, he’s fine.

I had an easy pregnancy but a lot of stress at work (not usual work stuff) so I’m the end I got a gp to sign me off work for the last month as I just thought they clearly don’t give a toss about me so I’ll take the step away from the stress.

Dd is 4 weeks old. I had a traumatic birth with my first (re-triggered a previous trauma I thought I'd dealt with) so was petrified of being pregnant/how I was going to get the baby out and then we found out my df's cancer had come back when I was 13 weeks pregnant. He died when I was 26 weeks pregnant and I had to organise the funeral, register his death and sort everything out for my dm. Then because I'd lost my df, my psychotherapy had to stop so I felt totally unsupported and my stress levels got even higher.

I worried about the stress side of things and everyone from the midwives to my GP sister in law and the consultant Obstetrician I was seeing said as long as I kept eating/drinking the baby would be fine.

As for strategies I tried to go out for plenty of walks, started keeping a journal and spent a lot of time on pinterest making boards for more positive things like Christmas, presents for people, how I want to decorate the playroom etc.

Firstly @ParkheadParadise there are no words

Op I was just thinking about posting a similar thread. I've been very stressed about a couple of issues recently and I've just passed the 12 week mark. I suffer from anxiety really bad anyway and when I get stressed or anxious about a particular situation then I can feel it through my whole body, heart pounding out my chest and literally pain through my shaky body. It's awful and very scary.

Sadly no advice but I'm going through the same as you :(

Parkheadparadise that's incredibly sad and awful for you, thank you for replying to me x
Thank you to everyone else who has taken the time to reply to me so far, this baby means everything to me and I feel so guilty letting things cause me this amount of stress. I am considering talking therapy. It's nice to know I'm not alone marthame x

If you find something that works then let me know, I'd love to get a handle on my feelings. It's horrible feeling like this.
Like you my baby is so so wanted too x