Delayed Miscarriage

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Went for a scan today due to bleeding, should have been 10 weeks today but, at the scan they told me the baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks and I had miscarried.
The pregnancy is still inside me so, I have another appointment for Thursday for treatment.
Im devastated!!
I had bleeding when I was pregnant with my son and bleeding at 6 weeks with this pregnancy, when for early scan at 6 weeks and there was a heart beat so I was hopeful things would be OK.
What I find harder is that I have thought for these past few weeks that everything was fine, getting excited for my 12 week scan which would have been in 2 weeks and finding out that there is no baby now is heart breaking.
Then to have to wait till Thursday to pass the pregnancy, I just want it over with.

Just looking to speak to people who have been through the same thing.

I’m so, so sorry for your loss .

I went through it twice last year. With the first I had some brown spotting at 11 weeks but was reassured it was normal to begin with. I instinctively knew it wasn’t and pushed for a scan which showed the heartbeat had stopped at 7 weeks. I opted for medical management which was the worst idea ever, I haemorrhaged and almost died.

With the second MMC I had no spotting whatsoever, I just found out at the 12 week scan that I had miscarried three weeks before. I had the D&C that time so it was physically a better experience but still mentally draining.

I am currently 23+1 though with a healthy boy so it did get better for me eventually. It’s obviously an incredibly cruel and heartbreaking thing to go through. Miscarriage always is but I think there’s something crueller about missed miscarriages because you don’t have the spontaneous bleeding or cramps and assume everything is ok.

Be kind to yourself .

thank you for your response, Im sorry for your losses but, glad to hear you are having a healthy little boy.
I was thinking about the medical but, may reconsider, is it painful when you have the medical management?
Im starting to bleed more now so, it may pass before my appointment on Thursday which I think i would really prefer just so i can deal with it in my own way