Hg and a 15 month old :-(

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Hey ladies! Just looking for somewhere to vent really. With my first little girl I had HG so bad I was constantly hospitalised, and I’ve got it again this time round. My fiancée works 8am-9:30pm 5 days a week and sometimes only gets one day off so I’m really struggling on my own. My little girl is so good which is making it easier but I’m falling behind on all the household jobs and I can’t even take her out during the week, I just feel so guilty. My partners been amazing but I feel like I’m starting to become a burden. I feel bad for him working such long hours and then coming home and doing the jobs but I literally can’t move without throwing up. I’m scared to go to the doctors because I was on cyclizine and metaclopromide (I think that’s the two) last time and they made me feel so drowsy and out of it I just can’t feel like that with my little girl to look after. I feel like such a bad mum and a bad partner :-( just looking for someone who gets it, as much as my partner tries to understand he also doesn’t quite get that even when I’m not throwing up I still feel like I’m about to every second. Sorry for the rant lol xxxx

Anyone? :-(

Oh poor you OP. That is really really tough.

I'd encourage you to go to your GP. They may be able to offer you something different or a different dose to last time.

Couldn't read and run. Do you have any family or friends who are local and know what you're going through? Speak to your HV and GP

Your gp should put you on something else. Ondansetron was magic for me and many people (but constipating!!) . There is a long running thread on hyperemesis support where people should have other great ideas.
Kudos to you. One of my motivations for working next time we move countries is to have childcare in place if I have hyperemesis again!

I've been there (DD was 12 months when DS was conceived). It's tough. Does your toddler nap well? I struggled through the morning, then was lucky enough that DD slept 2-3 hrs after lunch (I usually slept too). After nap, I'd take her downstairs and let her play while I dozed / led on the sofa. I had a stair gate on the lounge door and babyproofed the room so she was totally safe if I fell asleep. I used CBeebies now and then to keep her amused- no harm done.
Cyclizine was a no-no as I was too drowsy to look after her safely but Ondansetron was wonderful.

Remember- she won't remember this and it's no real harm if she has a boring few weeks / months. The house won't mind if you don't clean it either. You just need to get through each day.

Oh gosh I’ve been in your shoes. Honestly, give yourself so so sooo much slack. As long as little one is safe and well then everything (I mean everything else) is optional.

I also recommend medication. Win cylizine it takes 2-3 days to become accustomed to it and then you won’t feel drowsy. I basically passed out to start with but was fine by day three. So start it when you have some help.

Thank you so much for replying! I think I’ll get an appointment booked for tomorrow and see what they can do. I just feel like everything’s getting on top of me. I’m also extremely anemic and was in hospital a few weeks ago for it, I was told I’d be contacted with my prescription but never was and I’ve phoned every day since and I’ve either been told they’d phone back, been told that they don’t have a record of me, told that they’d lost my blood results!! Or they’ve just not answered the phone. I went to a pharmacy and they won’t give me anything until the hospital has so I’m also stuck in limbo with that, and paired with the sickness I can barely stand. I have my mum nearby but she’s never suffered with it so she isn’t very sympathetic :-( I feel like a prisoner, I haven’t left the house in weeks, my sister had my little girl at hers in Eastbourne for a few days which was a massive help but I feel so guilty, unfortunately my partners family all live down the road and don’t bother to even text and ask how their granddaughter is let alone come and see her :-( I know I’m feeling massively sorry for myself but I just can’t see a light at the end of the tunnel at the moment :-( xx

I’m so sorry you are suffering like this. I found that telling people to imagine when they last had a proper stomach bug/norovirus, then imagine that instead of it lasting a couple of days, it lasted months helped people to get the idea! Im so fortunate my mum also had it and had to leave her job etc due to it, but sadly other women who have been pregnant but had ‘normal’ low level sickness/nausea were the least sympathetic.

You aren’t making a fuss about nothing. This is survival mode. You are an absolute soldier. Well done for surviving today. Just keep going and take whatever help you can!

My sister is amazing and phones me every day to check in on me but she lives so far away :-( I feel bad saying it but it’s making me cross at my partner that he doesn’t understand (I know it’s not his fault) but like today he walks in and the first thing I hear is “you’ve been here all day and not even washed up” I literally could’ve cried, I’m not trying to be lazy and im normally an absolute clean freak so it’s driving me mad but I just can’t do it :-( I’m extremely lucky that my partner has an amazing job so we can afford for me to stay at home with our little girl but like I keep trying to remind him, when I had Hg with my little girl I was signed off work for weeks and actually ended up leaving my job because it lasted the whole pregnancy and I couldn’t cope. I’m just dreading waking up and it all starting all over again :-( xx