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Help for a friend on custody!

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kels366 · 08/07/2018 01:20

I need some advice for a friend!
He has recently broke up with his girlfriend who is around 6 months pregnant.
she has turned really nasty and has said she wants to give the baby up for adoption, it's not his, he's not aloud to see it.
she also said she is going to refuse him to sign the birth certificate and get someone else who she is not even seeing to sign it.

she is bipolar and refused to get treatment for it, she hasn't got much family as she was brought up in care.
He is rally excited for the baby to be born and she just keeps saying it is his and isn't his.
he wants the right to see his own child and wants full custody as she isn't looking after herself.

any advice would be great thank you!

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RoboJesus · 08/07/2018 01:24

He needs to contact social services. If the baby really is his and she wants to give the baby up for adoption then he will get custody if he's suitable.

kels366 · 08/07/2018 01:49

she said she wants to keep it now and it's all mixed messages but wants him no where near the child. he hasn't done anything to make her want that

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RoboJesus · 08/07/2018 01:53

Then he won't get custody unless he can prove she's an unfit mother. Either way he needs to contact social services

BlueBug45 · 08/07/2018 09:45

OP once the baby is born he can apply to court to get parental responsibility and go on from there.

However as other posters have stated he needs to contact social services as the most important thing at the moment is that the expectant mother is getting adequate support for her health, both medically and physically. Also if she has a proper diagnosis of bipolar disorder she should be getting help to manage this anyway, as antenatal care is done with a mixture of healthcare professionals including your GP practice.

kels366 · 08/07/2018 10:28

Thank you for your help. in not sure if she has gotten any support from it as she said she doesn't want to be labelled like her mum and she has it really bad. Can a random person still sign the certificate? He doesn't want to miss it but I guess it is her choice if he is there at birth or not. He has all evidence of her saying she doesn't wabt the baby and loads of other things she has said.

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Bluebellysmell · 08/07/2018 13:43

Whether or not he is there at the birth is, and should always be completely her choice, it's when a woman is incredibly vunerable, and until the baby is delivered it is a medical procedure on the mother.

As for getting a random to sign the birth cert, when we went to register my sons birth neither me nor his dad had to show ID or any proof of who we were, I mentioned at the time that he could be anyone claiming to be the babys father/my partner.

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