Advice please! Controlling bf trying to force abortion

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Desperately need advice on how to handle this situation. My best friend has fallen pregnant to a man she has been seeing for around 9 months. He's emotionally abusive and controlling. She was very happy and excited when she found out as it was assumed she was infertile after trying for a baby for 4 years with exf with no luck. However her partner is telling her that she has to get rid of the child and that she's weak if she doesn't. He's also told her that she cannot tell anyone or show emotion as this is not a big deal. He's trying to make her wait another 4 weeks to have said abortion as time off work would be 'unprofessional'. This would mean a surgical abortion. I know she doesn't want to do this and I don't think he would ever be physical toward her but I think she will cave to him. She has said herself that she would never get over an abortion and that she wants this child. I don't want her to feel like she's in the middle of a tug of war, him saying have an abortion, me saying keep the child but I don't want her to do anything she'll regret. Any advice on how I could go about helping her would be greatly appreciated.

What a horrible position for your friend to be in. I suppose ultimately it's her decision (although it is his too even though I don't necessarily agree).

Could she maybe talk to someone else, like a doctor or something. It would be awful for her to he forced into something she doesn't want xx

Please please please give her the number for Women's Aid! They will help her!!! They are amazing

She needs to get independent counseling - her GP should be able to point her in the right direction.

She needs to make an appointment asap and she can get around the receptionist by saying either refusing to say what it is for or by saying it's a mental health emergency. You can go with her to the GPs appointment to give her confidence to go, but you don't have to go in the room.

She does need to mention everytime her partner is controlling as this is considered domestic abuse. www.refuge.org.uk/get-help-now/recognising-abuse/ (She can ring and talk to them first if needed.)

She cannot be made to have an abortion if she doesn't want one. Also doctors don't like doing surgical abortions so her OH is a prized a-hole for suggesting such a traumatic procedure for her even if she wanted an abortion.

As a mother of children from an abusive, controlling relationship, I'd also advise her to consider whether she wants to be tied to such a controlling man for the rest of her life by having a child with him.