boyfriend don't care

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my boyfriend was first excited when he found out I was pregnant (two days ago) now he doesn't care by the looks of it and never even bothers with me he seems so distant what do I do I'm only four weeks

You only told him two days ago give him a chance

Never even bothers with you? He’s only known 2 days... what do you want him to do?

Can you elaborate on what you mean? If it's just been the last 2 days then what do you want him to do? Early pregnancy is a bit abstract for men as they can't feel it see anything yet.

hasnt been very loving towards me

How long have you been together? Was this pg planned?

Shell shocked.
Give him time.

It sounds like he's had a bit of shock. Give him sometime, but don't make a big deal out of his reaction. Try to act as you would usually.

2_ years and yeah it was planned

Remember that, as you are the one who is pregnant, you are thinking about this all the time, it's probably consuming most of your thoughts.

He is not pregnant, and doesn't have the prospect of pregnancy/birth etc ahead of him. IME men find it much easier to put it out of their mind and get on with their lives, particularly in the early days when you aren't showing and they don't see any direct impact on their lives.

Even if it was planned, he may still be in a bit of shock as the reality of what's happening sinks in. Give him time, talk about it but don't make it the only subject of conversation.

He's shocked.

It is also hard for men in the first trimester to understand you are pregnant especially if you aren't sick a lot. Even if you end up utterly exhausted so just sleep all the time a lot of them don't understand.

The one thing you should do is ensure he comes to every single scan appointment you have. Legally his workplace has to give him time off to attend two antenatal appointments which covers the 12 week and 20 week scans, but good employers will allow him to attend more appointments with you. (You won't have much notice for the 12 week scan but should have lots for the 20 week one. )

There is no point taking him to the booking appointment at 8-11 weeks as one of the things they ask is if you are in a relationship if there is domestic violence, and to do that he has to leave the room. They also will ask a couple of other times.

It was a shock for my hubby and i when we found out I was pregnant ( I found out at 16 weeks!). It really didn't register with us for quite a while tbh, a good few months! I kept on forgetting I was pregnant. Pregnancy isn't really as exciting to men as it is women. He enjoyed all the scans etc, and towards the end he did start to bond and get quite excited! Give your hubby time, honestly, our little man is here now, amd he is so good with him and loves him to bits! It's not that he doesn't care etc, he's probably still a bit shocked, I imagine it still doesn't feel quite real for him, especially as youre still so early in pregnancy, it might not kick in till you start showing, or even till bubs arrives! X

Do you expect him to be fawning over you every day for 9 months??

You seriously need to adjust your expectations or your going to be very disappointed and cause alot of unnecessary drama in your relationship. 9 months is a looong time. There will be moments when hes very loving towards you and you can both bond over your growing baby but most of the time life carrys on as normal.

My husband is a pr*ck when I'm pregnant. No interest in me or baby. He's been like that every time. It's so hard. I'm currently 27wks and still unwell but he barely notices. Hope your b/f not the same. 💕🍀

Probably shock OP.

laura why on earth would you keep getting pregnant if that’s the case??

Do you mean he’s less loving than usual? Or just not more loving than usual?

laurabmummyof3 our first DC would have been our last if that was my husband. He sounds a peach.