12 week scan today panicking after previous mmc

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Not sure why I'm posting I suppose I'm looking for positive stories on successful pregnancy after MMC.

In Feb I had a scan that dated me 9 weeks an we saw the heartbeat everything was fine. Then had some slight spotting a few days before my 12 week scan and found the pregnancy had stopped progressing.

When I worked back the dates my sickness and all symptoms had stopped the exact day.

Fast forward to now I am between 9-12 weeks pregnant (irregular periods/cycles) meaning that I am massively anxious that my sickness has disappeared again and I'm not sure if it's normal as I don't know how far I am.

I have a scan today so I will find out either way but it's so hard to keep positive when I feel like I already know the answer.

throwaway I've had several previous losses and am now 10 weeks pregnant (had a scan last week) I found it helpful to just go in expecting the absolute worst. I was a mess before my scan, couldn't breathe in the waiting room and when I got into the scanning room and the sonographer dared to ask how I was, I collapsed into hysterics. And then again when she showed me my live baby with its perfect heartbeat, I was hysterical. If you expect the worst at least you're as prepared as you can be, nothing worse than being blindsided, and then if you're blindsided with good news, it feels even better! Good luck, what time is your scan?

I had two MMC last year. One was at 11 weeks, I had some spotting and went for a scan and found the heart had stopped at 7 weeks. Second one I had no spotting at all and found at the 12 week scan that the heart stopped at 9 weeks. Both were obviously hugely heartbreaking and crushing.

When I got pregnant this time I was absolutely convinced the same would happen again and was absolutely terrified by the time the first scan came around. All was fine and I’m now 22+5 with a healthy baby boy .

Good luck OP, hope all goes well .

I had a MMC that was handled very badly by hospital (basically just told me to come back in two weeks for scan rather than saying was MMC, I then miscarried naturally a week later but ended up in hospital because of excessive bleeding). I avoided trying to conceive for a year as didn't think I could cope with another loss. When I did conceive I asked for an early scan at 9 weeks as I needed to know as some aspects of my job I can't do if pregnant. The sonographer looked a bit concerned which got me worrying again but turned out it was twins. They are five now and very healthy.

Good luck with your scan. Hope you have a positive outcome too.

I had 2 mmcs. I then went on to have a perfectly healthy son who was born 6 days before his due date and is now 8! I felt like I already knew he hadn’t made it. Was up all night night before and then on the screen one perfectly healthy baby.

Good luck today. Hand hold here if you need it.

I had two miscarriages quite close together, the second one was at around 6 weeks, and then got pregnant a third time. Bang on 12 weeks the sickness etc suddenly improved and I was fecking terrified going into the 12 week scan. But first thing I saw was baba doing a somersault, v much alive and far more baby-like than I expected so early. He'll be 5 in Sept.
It's so stressful, but try not to worry until you've something to worry about.

Thanks everyone hope I don't have to have two in a row before a successful pregnancy. My scan is at 3pm so feels such a long time.

I do seem to be concentrating on the negatives from experience.
Eg sickness stopping doesn't always mean a problem, for me it was the exact day.
Bleeding or spotting can be OK, not for me
Seeing a heartbeat reduces risk, not for me.
Usually no bleeding or pain means your ok, again not for me.

So considering this I'm finding it hard to hold on to positive thoughts. I was devastated to find that I'd been carrying this baby with no sign of anything wrong for two full weeks.

*last baby x

I don't have experience of a MMC but have had a previous miscarriage, so can understand the anxiety. My 12 week scan is in a week and I'm so nervous.
Holding your hand OP and wishing you all the luck for your scan. xxx

My first pg ended in a mmc
The second resulted in DS.

One mmc (though bloody awful) doesn't mean that it will keep happening.
Good luck today OP.

Hope all went well and you’re sitting looking at a scan photo

Me too.

Thank you so much I actually am! Very wriggly baby dated at 11 weeks and 4 days I couldn't believe it so fingers crossed try to keep the negative thoughts out.

I'm already in a bit of a something could have gone wrong since kind of mindset so might look into meditation for a positive mental attitude xx

That's fantastic. Such good news.

Yayyyy congrats.
I was in that same mindset until after my son was born even when I could feel him kickboxing my internal organs

Congratulations!

Fantastic news OP!

Thank you
I'm thinking about booking a scan around the 13 week mark just to double check everything is still OK?
20 weeks is a really long way away to be fighting anxiety around this.
I was already in the unlucky 2% last time so I'm very aware I'm not out of the danger zone yet and will be panicking that I could have another MMC and not know for two weeks.
Is this a good idea or am I just pandering to my negative thoughts I'm not sure x