Telling my friends

[Bellabutterfly2016]

So, there's 4 of us really good friends who met at our NCT course.

Our kids are all 3.

1 friend doesn't want more kids deffo

1 friend has a 13yr old too but did the course to make friends etc

1 friend is desperately ttc and keeps ditching her child with grandparents/aunts/uncles on "fertile days" spending a fortune on fancy hotels in the hope of conceiving

We all have a little "closed" fb group and post stuff on and basically have a giggle and support each other.

I want to tell my friends I'm pregnant again but worried that my ttc friend will be really really upset, she's frequently in tears. I'm 13wks my partner said to wait another 7 weeks and tell them all but I'm starting to show and we're all meant to be going out a week on Saturday for a Mummy meal but I don't want to upset my friend and ruin her night out.

What would people do? X

Congrats! Just be sensitive to your friends feelings but it's nothing to hide ☺️ we're ttc, nearly a year now and no joy but I'm still happy for my friends who do manage to get preg 😀

@squirrelnutkins1
Loving your beatrix potter themed username btw!

Aww thanks for your kind words. I'm just very worried about upsetting her she's distraught about a lack of pregnancy number 2 and just can't work out why she's not pregnant! It's affecting her relationship and making her really miserable and every time she brings it up (we never do) she ends up in tears wanting to go home!

Stay positive with ttc - you'll get there ❤️

Heehee thanks! 🐿
I totally know how your friend is feeling, although not lucky enough to have even had one yet. Maybe tell her first before you tell the group, to prepare her? Don't be apologetic tho, it's lovely news ☺️

I would definitely tell her on her own, and first, before any of your other friends. I was in a similar situation and told my friend over text so that she could digest the news on her own. she appreciated that.

Congrats

Congrats
EVERYONE seemed to get pregnant when I was TTC and I can honestly say I felt genuinely happy for every friend who fell pregnant. I also cried that it wasn’t me and then I got over it. Tell her in your group chat, that way she can react privately and still show her happiness for you. Don’t hide it, I’m sure she’ll want to be part of it.

Seriously stick with it. I have friends it took a while but there is quite literally a "window of opportunity" for it to happen each month and eventually you'll crack it.

There are tests you can have done to check all is ok then if you need any assistance they'll get you referred. I'm not sure how long they'd say you need to have been trying tho for that? Might be worth asking your gp.

I had 9 mc's before my daughter - after my last miscarriage we both gave up alcohol permanently and haven't really started up again, I have the odd 1 my partner has none at all. My cousin and his wife struggled, did the same and after giving up conceived in about 6 months so definately something to consider perhaps? Maybe there's no science plenty of people have drunk booze and conceive but the "experts" say if you struggle to cut it out x

@Bellabutterfly2016 thanks 👍🏻 my woes are on other threads 😜

Anywho congrats again and let us know how it goes!

Ps. So sorry about your mc's. That must've been horrendous for you 😢 glad you got a happy ending 🌈

Definitely 'announce' it in the group chat so she can react privately. In my Nct group there's a woman who's had a couple of miscarriages (maybe more), me who's had one and two pregnant women. Both announced it on WhatsApp shortly before our next arranged meet up. I was really happy for them but also a little jealous and glad I didn't have to put a brave face on.

How did it go??

Obviously not well as op didn’t come back