No 2 guilt

[househunthappening]

Before I start, I know this is totally daft - I'm not even pregnant!

We have a lovely 11 month old DS and have always wanted 2 children. We'd like a reasonably small gap and have decided to start trying soon. If we are lucky enough fall pregnant quickly as we did last time we'll have DC2 on the spring.

I'm not even pregnant yet but I'm already feeling guilty because I won't have as much time to spend with DS. Isn't that ridiculous! I just can't help but feel sad when I look at him thinking that I'm going to spoil what we've got now.

Please tell me how silly I'm being. It's that time of the month so I'm probably just being hormonal!

I understand how you feel completely.

Just think you will have had more than a year devoted to him.

I am nearly due my second & it is tough now I'm towards the end of the pregnancy, I feel I don't have the energy to do as much.

I can't just go anywhere with him & run after him as my hips feel so stiff etc.

Other people tell me not to feel guilty, I know they are right but I still feel a bit down about it.

In the scheme of things, I'll have 2 children less than 2 years apart & they'll keep each other entertained for many years to come(I hope anyway!)

I suppose what I'm saying is, it will be worth it, yes you'll feel guilty (sure when do us mothers not). But it's just a wave you'll have to ride. Best of luck.

I'm 17 weeks along with baby no 2 and I get what your saying - the mum guilt is definitely kicking in. My DS is 18 months, and he's such a happy little boy and I keep thinking 'oh god, am I about to ruin his little life' 😣

I keep telling myself that I'm being silly and that he'll benefit in the long run having a sibling this close in age, but it is hard to think about him getting less attention of everyone. It upsets me thinking about it 😢

We just need to remember that a lot of people have siblings and can't imagine their lives without them, and hopefully our babies will be the same eventually 😁

Thank you - you have both described it perfectly!

He is such a lovely little boy and really enjoys going to baby groups, meeting up with friends' babies etc and I feel bad that I won't be able to do so much of that, as well as devoting time to him at home.

I need to remember that I'm giving him a close in age sibling who he will hopefully get on with and that should make his little life better, not worse.

Congratulations to you both, hope your pregnancies have been going well x

I know you might feel guilty but trust me having a sibling is well worth the time missed! The child won't remember the extra time devoted to the other child but they will remember their amazing sibling and love them! If you want another child go for it!