hello..
I basically am 16 week pregnant, I suffer with hyperemsis and unfourtnatly had to leave my job at 8 weeks pregnant because I was constantly in and out of hospital. I was on probation at a new job so the pregnancy was a shock as me and my partner didn’t think we would catch so quick ( we was trying but been trying for 2 years and didn’t catch) so my partner told me to give up my job and we can try and sort things on his wage, I was to I’ll to work.. fast forward 2 month later I’m still sick and I’m on tablets had some more hospital admissions, some days can’t get out of bed it’s drained me out. So anyway.. the problem is my family. My sister recently give birth to a little girl.. me and my partner decided that we would stop trying within the 2 years as we felt that cause she got pregnant we didn’t want to take the limelight.. however shortly after she give birth I found out i was pregnant, we announced it to my family and my sisters reaction was cruel and harsh she called me basically an attention seeker because I’ve got pregnant.. trying to take the limelight off my sisters baby.. so I stopped speaking cut contact. Then when my family find out people have said I’ve tried copying my sister.. my sister is not in the best relationship with her other half so I highly doubt I was copying her ( hers was a shock). What I’m most annoyed at is that everyone took my sisters pregnancy really well.. she had everything brought for her and it annoys me because she has never brought anything for herself, my mum even brought nappies and milk. My family have been awful about my pregnancy and it has annoyed me so much.. I have had to give my income because of hyperemsis because off all the hospital admissions.. and my partner and me are trying are best to get through the pregnancy and provide and buy stuff ( we have nearly brought everything) but it’s just annoyed me how my family have so much tried to put us both down knowing what situation we are in. I’ve had no help from them and when I’m trying to sort my baby stuff out all they seem to keep going on about is my sisters baby when me and my partner are literally trying to get everything sorted. So the other day family came round again.. told us my flat is not suitable for a child/baby which I was fuming because we hardly have money to go getting about buying a new house, we have a spare bedroom for baby and it’s big and the flat itself is nice, me and my other half have agreed to move out when baby is here and I’m back into a job on weekends. They then continued to be so rude, so I snapped and eventually just said I was keeping myself to myself as none off them have understood. They
Keep throwing comments about everything, mine and my partners income, why I’m off work. What the baby needs. we have never asked any off my family for money, never even when we have struggled. I feel upset because I don’t want my child to feel like it’s not included in the family and at the moment that’s how it feels, none of them never bother to ask how the scan went or how I’m feeling with my hyperemsis. Me and my partner are not expecting anything of them, we have brought everything outselfs, but they always seem to want to comment.. it’s really got me down and I don’t know what else to do. I don’t want to cut contact but it’s looking like I am going to have to if they carry on.. stress is bringing my hyperemsis on even worse, I just wish they was more supportive. I’m not asking for much.. or not to be so nasty towards me and my other half as he still does work and trying his hardest for me and the baby.. just needed a rant and I don’t know where else to turn