more stressed then excited. feel like a bad mum

[kristrose]

im due October 7th with my second,and i feel like i have nothing. im so stressed i feel like a horrible mum:( with my first i was well prepared but ive just not got around to it on this one.

so far i have loads of clothes,newborn then up to 6 months. i have 4 packs of size 1 nappies. i have a car seat and a cot,i have blankets,dummies,bibs and stuff but i feel like i have barely anything.

i don't have a moses basket,no bottles or steriliser cause i plan on breast feeding. do i need bottles? i don't have a bath seat or a pram. i just feel like im gonna be rushing around and ill have nothing ready by the time he arrives:(!! i have my daughters old pram but its pink and white? i was thinking of using that for him but i don't wanna be slagged off and i have a 19 month old but by the time hes here shell be 23 months so i need to get a double pram but i never go anywhere and if i do im with my oh who has a car or his mil,im so confused and i feel stressed and don't know what i need and don't need:(!!

Oh OP, don't be so hard on yourself! Think it must be the hormones talking. Read back the list of what you have- it's actually more than you need for a baby!
I remember first time round I bought EVERYTHING on the market, brand new, and decorated the nursery months before I was due. With DS2, the only thing I hadn't bought first time round was a mirror for the car seat, so £5 was my total outlay for him, and it did feel strange to not be spending and planning the same.
Now due DC3 and had given everything away, so I'm just borrowing things from friends- babies use things for such short times anyway. I'm 30 weeks and have nothing in the house yet. There's still loads of time.

As long as you have the clothes, nappies and somewhere to sleep, anything else can be sorted out once he's here. I personally wouldn't use a pink pram for a boy, but I seem to be in the minority here. What about trying to sell it on gumtree/Facebook and using the money to buy a different colour?

I have the same age gap between dc1 and dc2 and got away with a buggy board. Just a thought. And I got buses and walked everywhere...

I think it’s a second baby thing. With the first one it’s such a novelty and you can’t wait to buy stuff. Second time round I’m finding the organisation a bit of a slog. Annoyingly, I also have a big age gap so other than a bumbo seat and a rather sad looking high chair, nothing is being passed on!

Get a spreadsheet together, thinking about the things you used most with first baby, then tick it off as you go. For the pram, how about selling the old one on Facebook and looking for a double? I got an almost pristine travel system for £90 this weekend. If you aren’t going to use it much then just get something basic.

I'm due Oct 7th with my first and haven't got anything yet. Don't stress!

I'm 38 weeks tomorrow with DC2 and don't have much more than you! The only reason I have the Moses basket and buggy etc is because I still have it all from DD. I did go out and get some bottles/milk but still have the steriliser from last time.

All of the new stuff I needed for DS was bought last week. You've got loads and loads of time!

Op I’m due on subsay and I’m not as organised as you are! Half our stuff is arriving via amazon prime tomorrow as we’ve left it so late!

Make a list and go through it one by one. You have done this before so you can do it again. Stop being so hard on yourself too you have another child this time and much less time to plan.

You sound like a great mum btw.

I'm due at the beginning of September and just started to get things.

Thats more than Ive bought and Im due my first in September! sounds pretty organised to me !