36+1 and feeling like an awful mum!

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Dd1 is 2.5 (nearly). I’m 36+1 with DC2. It’s stupidly hot, my back hurts from SPD, I’m barely sleeping as uncomfortable and constantly need a wee. I feel like an awful mum as all I want to do is sit in a chair and watch TV!! Currently playing with DD1 but feeling bad that we’re not out enjoying the sunshine. I took her to the park this morning and we’ve played with water in the garden but I’m just so tired and hot! Reassure me that staying at home and playing with lots of TV chill time is ok??!!

I know how you feel! 36+4 with an almost 2 year old and the amount of tv time has been shocking! It's too hot to be out but still feel guilty I can't play properly or take her places. This mum guilt is awful! But I bet once baby turns up it'll be another guilt trip lol

It's a few weeks, it's fine. Do lots of the same when baby arrives too, you'll need to. Can you out the paddling pool out and get in with her? She'd probably love it and it'll cool you down too

I have a dd who is 3 next week and am 37 weeks, 100% am the same as you. Am able to do less and less as I bet bigger and this heat is killing me. The mum guilt is real, but it won't be for long!

this is the closest to a medal I can find on here. But a star is also appropriate.
I think you're all absolute stars for even doing what you have in this heat. I'm not pregnant and I haven't taken ds out, not even outside in the back yard. Granted he's got a bit of a runny nose/ sniffles, and is tired due to not sleeping too well with the heat, and I've got a banging headache from it (I suffer badly anyway), but he's been happy playing inside with his toys, with the shutters closed to stop the sun shining right in and turning the house into a sauna.
So if you're feeling guilty/ like awful mums for being heavily pregnant but still taking your little ones out for a bit, what on earth does that make me?
Don't be so hard on yourselves, you're all wonderful. I remembered being heavily pregnant in the heat, was due end of August 2015, so I know how hard it is. Good luck (and plenty of water) to you all

Absolutely fine. The last few weeks before DC2 was born (overdue) I was a wreck and DC1 watched a lot of TV.

We’ve made up for it in the years since

If you lived abroad it would be siesta time. Keeping little ones out in the midday sun is not a great idea anyway.

Thank you! You’ve all made me feel lots better!!! The mum guilt is awful and plays heavily on the old heart strings!! X

Happymummy that's lovely to read thank you. I also had my dd in the stifling heat of summer 2015. It appears I didn't learn my lesson!! Only a few weeks left to go folks, we can do this!

Phyllis thank you. I think it's so easy to focus on the negatives, especially in terms of parenting. Sometimes it's nice for someone, even a stranger, to say that you're doing a wonderful job, or that your best is more than good enough. I know there's been a good few times when I've doubted myself and felt bad about things, and it's taken someone else to say these sort of things to me. Just to help me take a step back and realise that actually it's okay if sometimes things aren't going exactly the way we'd like them to. But as long as I'm doing the best I can for my child then I'm a great mum. I think a lot of people can relate to that.