How do I tell my BF I’m pg?

[Sourwatermelon]

Background- I’m in my late 30s, boyfriend will be 40 next week. Been together 1.5 years, but don’t live together. We both have 2 children each (not with each other), ages 11-13. Neither of us want any more children.

Found out I’m pregnant a few days ago and haven’t seen him since, so haven’t told him yet. Obviously not the thing you announce over the phone! I know what I must do, but I’m pretty devestated tbh. He’s the love of my life and I’m stewing over what might have been.

He’s coming over later today and I just don’t know how to tell him. I don’t have any close friends, so haven’t told anyone, so it feels good just getting it all out! Any advice would be appreciated.

How do you think he might take it? Is it really such a bad thing to have happened? Would you want to keep it if he turns out to be happy?

I suppose all you can do is just come out with it and go from there... 😬 I hope it goes well 🤞

I just don’t know what his reaction will be. He won’t be angry or anything like that, but I hate the thought of upsetting him.

I’m sure he wouldn’t want you having all the upset on your own... there’s no way around it, he’ll have to be told.
Are you due to see him any time soon? The sooner you get to offload this the better you’ll feel.

He’s coming round tonight. My first thought was to deal with it on my own, but I can’t do that to him. I just feel terrible, especially as I’m starting to feel sick as well!

Oh no, I agree... it’s not fair to you or him to deal with it on your own. I really hope it goes well for you later 🤞

It takes two to tango, as my mum says. If neither of you is using contraception, it shouldn't come as a huge surprise. I hope for your sake that he supports you and you're able to make a decision together!

Thank you. I’ve been keeping it together for the past few days, but once I tell him it’ll become reality and I’ll have to deal with it, which is terrifying me!

When you tell him, maybe say ‘I’ve had a few days to process this, so I know how I’m feeling about it, but you haven’t, so I know it will be a shock - if you want time before we talk more about choices that’s ok’.

Best of luck