39 weeks and dp is drunk

[Spanglyprincess1]

Tiny rant, I'm 39 weeks and could go at any time. DP went out tonight and is drunk, I mean dead drunk just weed in garden and needed me to help him get to bed drunk.
He also tried to use our brand new baby bath as a sick bucket!! He is too drunk to understand why I am angry at him for doing this.
I knew he was having a few drinks but didn't realise he had gone this far.
Am I right to be annoyed? Everything should be okay but if I do go into labour overenight then I worry about getting to hospital.

My ex did this. We had visitors from.home about a week before DS1 was born. Ex went out with them and came back very drunk. He had to sleep on the floor as I couldn't get him to bed. If labour had started I would have asked my friend to come and got a taxi. As it was DS was two weeks late and all was fine. If it is not a regular occurrence I would let it go.

first labours are looong

Not always. And I seriously doubt “the majority of husbands” rolled up pished last night. What an odd statement.

We agreed that my husband wouldn't drink the last month of my labour in case we needed to get to hospital. He did have a couple of nights out he didn't want to miss so he asked my best friend to be on standby those nights as a taxi! Seemed a good solution.

I hope he's sobered up a bit this morning and more importantly baby stayed put for the night. PP are right - don't let him drive this morning. Give him a good bollocking and take it from there. Remind him that if he's had even a drop he won't be able to drive you nor will he be allowed in the hospital to assist you so he'll miss the birth. Hopefully that will shock him into reality!

First labours are not always long. Mine wasn't, certainly not long enough for OP's DP to sober up in time. I wasn't overdue either.

If it was football related, will it be ok for him to do the same next week, and potentially the week after?

Don't know about the baby, but the kiddies are out to play 😂

Hmm ignore the idiots
Anyway, you need to let him know again how unacceptable this is and if he does it again you will have to go back to your mums or get someone else to move in with you to take responsibility of taking to the hospital and being your birth partner.
As an aside why is it your responsibility to wake him for work? Is he not an adult? A soon to father?
Hopefully he will give his own head a wobble when he sees how seriously he let you down and all will be well
Good luck

I'd be mighty unamused tbh - and I wouldn't give a crap if it was football related. When your DP is heavily pregnant you don't go out and get sloshed; the vast majority of women give up drinking when pregnant, expecting the dad to do the same for a few weeks at the end isn't unreasonable.

Are all first labours long? My mom's was 3hrs and all my aunt's were under four with their firsts ( I have been birth storied to death!)
It's a non issue now as I was ok last night. I've asked he lay off the booze until bump comes just in case

No, mine was 4 and a half hours from first contraction to birth.

'I've asked he lay off the booze until bump comes just in case'

You'd have hoped he figured that out himself, but apparently not. Glad you're ok, and hopefully he'll stick to lemonade for the rest of the pregnancy!

Aside from the appropriateness of getting bladdered when your missus is about to pop, it's worth having a back up plan anyway. My husband often works away, and while he's trying to schedule work closer to home around the due date, it is possible he could be several hours away when labour starts. My family live a long way away so I have a couple of friends lined up for lifts and moral support if necessary (and taxi numbers, obviously).