36 weeks tomorrow and scared silly. [Trigger warning added by MNHQ]

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Just found out an old friend of mines partner lost their baby an hour after birth last week. At 36 weeks.

I am hitting my 36 week mark tomorrow and for obvious reasons this now has me quite anxious. I feel absolutely awful for them, but it's induced a big fear something will go wrong for me.

I don't want to ask them any questions ok the how's or why's as obviously I don't want to upset them.

So can you guys please let me know how common this is? What likely may make this happen and what if anything I can do to prevent it?

I'm considered low risk, but from my understanding so were they.

This has shaken me to my core. I guess I just need some reassurance and I've no idea where to look. The idea of this happening to anyone is awful, but imaging my little baby in that situation just breaks my heart even more. It's sent me into quite a state of fear and upset :(

It’s a rare thing that’s happened to them. It’s very sad and obviously has made you anxious. That’s understandable.
Can you have a chat with your midwife for some reassurance?
I hope you can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy.

I'd only seen her today so k don't really want to bother her so soon. Especially as they are concerned about my mental health due to depression recently.

I think if I can't shake this feeling I will contact her though.

It's the closeness of timings that just has me in shock. I can't imagine the pain they must be going through.

Like chocolatecake said its a rare thing that has happened. I would try and not let things worry you i know its easier said than done. I am 36 weeks today and i cant wait till my baby boy is here safe and sound, worrying gets you no where remember thats what my mum says to me.

Like chocolatecake said its a rare thing that has happened. I would try and not let things worry you i know its easier said than done. I am 36 weeks today and i cant wait till my baby boy is here safe and sound, worrying gets you no where remember thats what my mum says to me.

It is a very rare thing to loose a baby at 36 weeks.

My DD was born a day or two before 36 weeks. Apart from being small, she was fine. She didn't need to to the NICU and we went home a few days later.

It's unusual and unlucky, every pregnancy and birth is different, there's no reason to think it it will be the same for you, it's far more likely your baby will be fine.

Yes very rare, there may have been an underlying condition that wasn’t picked up at scans and tests. I delivered my daughter at 36 weeks and she was perfectly healthy, normal birthweight, no problems other than some jaundice. Try to relax, you are so nearly full term. easier said than done I know.

I can absolutely understand how scary this is, especially as I will be 36 weeks this weekend. What you're experiencing is called confirmation bias. You're taking what is in fact an extremely unusual event (albeit a terrible one) as confirmation that you somehow face increased risk of something awful happening to your baby. When in fact what happened to your friend's partner has no impact either way on your own pregnancy. (I know you know that, but it can be helpful to hear it from someone else.) This sad event does not increase your own risk in any way.

Thank you all so much. I really needed to hear that from other mums/mum's to be.

I found out I'm 2/5 engaged today. Been getting a lot of back ache and period pains on and off since yesterday so I think the mix of everything just scared me.

I feel so awful for them. To know they've gone through that is heartbreaking. But imaging that being my little girl just hit a real emotional nerve.

I've obviously heard of it happening before, but it being closer to home and so close in dates with me made it all so much more real.

Hello OP, we're so sorry to hear about your friend's situation. We're going to add a trigger warning to the title here as some MNers might find the discussion upsetting. We wish you the very best with your pregnancy.

Thank you for doing that MN.

I'm so sorry in my haste and panic I was completely ignorant and should of added that myself before I posted.

I apologise to anyone I may have upset in the process.