10 weeks pregnant and just feel alone

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Hi, I'm 10 weeks pregnant. And I just don't feel excited, feel alone, feel really down. My oh doesn't talk about the pregnancy, it was unplanned and it isn't the best if timings. We wanted children a little later on. He has been under alot of stressed and recently left work. He doesn't even hug me anymore or ask how I am since found out. Spends alot time sleeping downstairs or coming to bed at 2 clock in morning. He is on his mid thirties. I am waitkng till I have my first scan to tell others. So I know all will be OK. I feel like anything i say, he thinks I'm nagging. Asking him whether he is coming to bed, is the wrong thing to say. Just feel so down. Just don't know what say or do.

I’m so sorry you are feeling like this. How long have you been with your OH? Do you think you would feel happier about the pregnancy if he was? It doesn’t seem fair he’s punishing you for something you both co-created. Sending a big hug. Xxxx

Sorry to hear things are tough for you. Personally I would tell a close relative/friend so you have someone to talk to. I figure if I did miscarry I would need someone to talk to even more.

We have been together for nearly 5 Years. We lost a baby 4 Years ago. so it's been tough few years. I think because of the timings atm he is blaming me for not being careful enough. I have told a friend who lives a long way from me. Just don't feel have physical support and saying wrong things all time. He already has a son who is nearly a teenager. And he is a great dad. Maybe cause I have found it tough over the years. Talking about children. Just too much for him now.

I don't have much useful advice but want to wish you good luck. Will he be going to the scan with you? Maybe hearing that heartbeat will help him get his head round it.

It sounds like he could be depressed, has he seen anyone about helping him cope with the stress? His GP or a counsellor?

I don't have much useful advice but want to wish you good luck. Will he be going to the scan with you? Maybe hearing that heartbeat will help him get his head round it.

It sounds like he could be depressed, has he seen anyone about helping him cope with the stress? His GP or a counsellor?

Hi there, I’m sorry you are going through this. I was wondering how close you are to your parents? Could you speak to your mom about things? It’s right what they say about a problem shared, it will help to alleviate your stress. I’m going through something very similar and totally understand how you feel. It’s meant to be a joyous time but without the love and support of your other half, it won’t be. My oh recently spoke to his mom about things and she helped to put his mind at ease. Things have been a ‘little’ better since then. Another thing that I found was that after your initial scan (I had an early one due to pcos and not knowing when I conceived) your focus kind of shifts and it becomes less about your other half being happy and more about being happy for that little life inside of you. I hope things get better and your partner begins to see this for the blessing that it is. Try to just focus on YOU and find someone to talk to.x