People telling me what I’m having from my scan pic!

[Alanares89]

So I’m freaking out!

Got my 20 week scan on Friday and a friend said remember to send me the pic and of course I would be showing it off, but then she said “because I’ll be able to find out what your having right away, a midwife told me how to tell”

Butttt, it’s a suprise baby! And my first baby!

She said she won’t tell me but what if she slips up? I would be so angry and upset if she took that precious moment away from me.
I’m thinking off not showing my pic off to anyone now, but before I say no to her seeing the pic, can people really tell?? Has anyone had this issue before?

I can’t stop thinking about it, my partner would love to find out as he’s so excited but he’s now calmed down and said he will wait now for the suprise, I want us to be the first people to know what our baby is, not my friend.

Any advice or help would be appreciated xx

Simples no one else sees the scan.

Just say no, you want to keep it as a surprise. You don’t have to explain anymore than that.

Or conveniently forget when you next see her, and don’t even think about posting on social media

I've never go the sex wrong after looking at the scan, but even the professionals get it wrong sometimes. Even if someone offers their suggestion, it doesn't mean they're right, but you only have 2 choices anyway so someone will guess!

You'll not be able to get through the next 20 weeks without having an inkling, or a guess, but it'll still be wonderful when you finally meet your baby

I never post on social media anyways, yeah I think I’ll just not send the picture, even though I would like to show my friends the baby and now I’m going to look a crazy person, maybe I am a crazy person lol

I’d be really tempted to just send a random ultrasound off google images 😂

I just hate the awkward situation off looking like the weirdo who doesn’t want to show off her scan pics lol but yeah it’s the only way, I’ll just need to keep the pics to myself.

I’m lying in my bed and I’ve said that last sentence about 50 times lol

Haha google did go through my head!!

Got some veterinary scans I could send you. That’ll get her.

Nothing was visible in my 20 week scan pic, baby was such a wriggler! Maybe ask the midwife for a photo where it's not clear, or ask the midwife if it is clear when you have the photo, and you can send it. At my scan the midwife needed a full straight on view of the genital area to confirm it was a girl so not sure what your friend is talking about to be honest.

We showed our 12 week scan to a relative who immediately said she thought we were having a girl and explained the nub theory. She was also someone who thought we were lucky if we had a girl. Turned out she was right. I was a bit annoyed though, as it put that thought in my head, but with not much reliability.

I wouldn't show the picture, or at least ask the sonographer if they think it shows. It's a bit odd to think your friend might have more of an inkling than you.

You may get more than one picture. We have one that is just the head and upper torso, if you have one of those you could send it. Otherwise keep it to yourself.

“because I’ll be able to find out what your having right away, a midwife told me how to tell”

If it helps, I think she's talking nonsense anyway. It's not that uncommon for them not to be able to tell you because they can't get a clear shot between the legs, so assuming you're not going to have that as your keepsake photo(!) she's not going to know (though she will guess - and obviously there's a 50-50 chance she'll be irritatingly right).

Personally, one (very minor) reason I found out was that before the 20 week scan I was already getting so fed up with people trying to guess based on random superstition or 'hunches' that I like just telling them and having no speculation about it! So since you do want a surprise I definitely wouldn't send her the scan, as although she won't actually know she may well drive you mad with hints.

I think she's just been lucky with her guesses. There are lots of 'theories' but unless she's seen in between babies legs anything she says is just a guess. And she has a 50/50 chance of being right.

Do what @Pasithea said! that would be amazing!

Our professional sonographer told us we were having a girl at 20 weeks.

She was wrong - DS is very much a boy.

But if you are worried about people guessing then I'd just not show them.

The problem is once you "know" you will know how to tell - and it's not a problem how the baby is positioned!!

I found out by accident, and therefore knew what my 2nd baby was going to be! I would try to avoid talking to people as it is a relatively simple difference between male and female - and it's not to do with what you "see".

However it isn't infallible and you can be wrong!

The problem is once you "know" you will know how to tell - and it's not a problem how the baby is positioned!!

I found out by accident, and therefore knew what my 2nd baby was going to be! I would try to avoid talking to people as it is a relatively simple difference between male and female - and it's not to do with what you "see"

Well, in that case you should share this amazing secret with professional sonographers, who pretty often say they can't tell because they can't see properly... Even if you pay for a sex scan they sometimes can't tell due to baby's position (though they will then rescan for free a week or whatever later), and they're pretty highly invested in being able to tell you, so if the position was no problem they would.

You usually get a few different pics, so you can send a head shot etc, or just crop it yourself to remove the genital area?

I would just send a random scan pic from the Internet, as a PP said. Make sure you blank put any names/dates. Your friend will never know.