I just found out I’m pregnant again

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I have a wonderful DD aged 4 and DS aged 1. My DS was much longed for as before I had him I had stillborn twins at 26 weeks followed by a miscarriage. Once we had him I felt like my family was complete.

I’ve just found out I’m pregnant again. I know lots of people struggle to get pregnant and would love three children but I’m finding it difficult to accept the news. I really don’t want to put my body through a fourth pregnancy and labour, and I worry my DH and my time and money will be so stretched between three children. I’ve just gone back to work and now I don’t know how I will cope with childcare for three children and if I’ll be able to go back to work again.

I suppose I’m just looking for reassurance really. I should add that my DH always wanted three children so he is pleased and is a very supportive partner.

Hi there, firstly I'm very sorry you have suffered the way you have. I imagine its quite scarey to be in this sought of limbo of not knowing how you feel/ what to do..

I am currently pregnant with number 4 and myself and my husband were shocked and scared but im now 24 weeks in and i can't imagine him (its a boy) not being a part of our family now.

I can't relate to your situation as I've never experienced loss like you have, but i just wanted to reassure you that as scarey as it seems now being pregnant with a fourth it gets easier, i had medical problems which is why we were so scared.

I think the main thing is the love you feel for your other children will be there for this one too, and having a supportive partner is great.. it's ok to feel like you do right now and whatever you feel and do will be right for your family.

Xx

I had huge trepidation finding out I was expecting DC2 as a surprise- it took a few weeks but I came around to the idea and started to enjoy the ideas of 2 DC, they're 16m apart and adore each other

Thanks for taking the time to respond. I think it might just take me some time to get used to the news. At the moment it’s all I think of all day and night

Sorry first of all to hear of your losses and congratulations on your pregnancy.

Can't speak from personal experience as only pg with my first but I know quite a few couples with 3 children and they all are managing just fine. They find a way to make it work for them with childcare etc.

I think we humans are more capable and resilient and than we give ourselves credit for x

Hello. I recently found out I'm pg with DC3 - totally unplanned. We considered a termination but finally decided to go ahead just last week. I shared a number of your concerns so I feel for you. Even though we are going ahead, I am still struggling a bit and not used to the idea.

Take some time to think things through and let the shock wear off. If you decide to go ahead then you will cope if that is the path you choose.

Thank you both for replying. @honeybee79 good luck with your pregnancy and thanks for sharing

It will be fine. Honestly. You will cope and adapt - if you want to.