Did I really bring this upon myself😬😢

[Restlessmomtobe]

Ladies, anyone who can help me get some peace of mind. I'm losing vital sleep each night since I found out I'm pregnant. The first day of my LMP was on 5/18/18 and ended 5/24. If I'm calculating correctly my cycles vary from 26-28 days. That is counting from my first day menstruating, till just before my flow drops again. I have the "my calender app", in which I've been able to successfully record 2 cycles. My dilemma is I slept with a guy on 5/25. No protection, he simply pulled out. I again had sex 5/26, 5/28, 5/30 with a special guy. Unprotected and he didn't "pull out". Me and special guy have done this before and I never got pregnant. I'm ashamed but need to know who's the father. My baby can feel my energy and it's killing us. According is conception calculators, I'm 5wks & a few days. With a conception "estimated date" of 06/01. Any knowledge or advise is much appreciated. Thank you.

Unfortunately, as you’ve had unprotected sex with more than one man... as far as I know the only way is a DNA test.

I would expect the father to be "special guy."

With a 26-28 day cycle, you will have ovulated on 31/5 or 1/6 most likely.

I wouldn't expect sperm to survive from 25/5, especially if he pulled out.

The only way to know for sure, without knowing exactly when you ovulated, if you got pregnant from a straggler sperm from guy 1, or one from guy 2, is a dna test. Sorry.

Hugs to you OP but I have to point out that this is the exact plot of Bridget Jones' baby:)

@Hundredacrewoods you said exactly what I was going to say.

DNA test will be the only way to tell who is the father.

I'd say that the special guy is more likely to be the father. You would have ovulated around the 1st and I doubt any sperm would have survived from the 25th especially as he pulled out.

As others have said, the only definitive way of knowing is a dna test.

Much more likely to be your 'special guy' but as the others have said you can't be absolutely 100%. Is he hoping for a child since you're not using contraception? Only way to be sure is a DNA test or a striking resemblance after it's born.

It only takes one and sperm have been known to live a week. It's more likely to be "special guy" but you simply can't tell from a timing difference of a few days who a baby's father is.

Given that you slept with two men a few days apart, is this the right time to be having a baby at all? Was all the sex consensual? Were you trying, and if so, isn't it a bit concerning that you're also sleeping with someone else? If you go ahead with the pregnancy you are going to have to tell "special guy" that there's a chance the baby isn't his.

Those dates are confusing my brain.

I understood everything (once I realised the dates were the American way round) but i don’t understand the conception date 6/1?

Oh the first of juuuuune I get it! Omg baby brain.

It’s the special guys baby.

It's more likely to be special guys but it could be the other guys so unfortunately the only way to know is a dna test

Chances are higher it’s special guy if he didn’t pull out but you can’t know for sure without a dna test

Could be either - you had sex with 2 people on 2 consecutive days. Statistically it’s more likely to be the one who didn’t pull out (‘special guy’), but you need to be honest about the need for a DNA test if you want the father to have any involvement at all.

Most likely Special Guy.
I hope he'll feel special when he's told he's going to be a dad.
It's a BIG deal becoming a parent, OP.
Kids deserve to come into a stable environment. So, work hard on creating one.
Good luck.

I do think you need to tell him/both that there’s a chance they may not be the dad... it would be highly unfair in my opinion to say he will be a dad only to potentially take that away from them if you’re wrong.

Yes, you brought this on yourself by having unprotected sex with two different men.

Absolutely no way of knowing for sure unless DNA test is done. It’s really not fair to tell ‘special guy’ he is becoming a father if you can’t say for sure 100%. So think you will have to have an honest conversation saying you slept with someone else the night before you slept with him and although it’s more likely to be his you will have to have a dna test to be sure. How would that go?

Don't forget to get tested for STDs