Advice needed please! I don't know what to do!!!

[MissyMoooo]

So my 12 year old DD just brought her 13 year old friend round to tell me that she (the friend) thinks she is pregnant! She had full sex 4 weeks ago with a 12 year old boy, and her period is a week late. She says she can't tell her mum and has asked me if I would get her a pregnancy test for her. What do I do? As a mum I would want to know if it was my daughter and I'd feel as if I was going behind her mums back, but on the other hand is it better she finds out for sure before telling her mum? I really don't want to get involved but I do feel for the girl and want to help. What do I do? Help please!!

Oh my OP! I can't offer any advice as I don't have kids yet. But I know that whatever you choose to do will be for the best. What a situation to be in tho. Poor girl and poor you!

I don’t think buying her a test or telling her mum or both will meet her needs right now.
What about taking her to a local gum clinic. They often have special services/clinics for under 18s, and the hcp there will decide if she is competent for things to remain confidential. They will do a test for her and counsel her on the result, as well as sort out some contraception longer term.
Poor girl

Thanks @Skydiving I didn't know that. I will check it out x

I would support her to access a clinic (like Brooke advisory or a local sexual health, tailored to teens ideally). You could research it and go with her. That way a professional can assess all the issues and if they think there's something to be concerned about they can help. They will also be best placed to help her think about contraception.

It's lovely they trust you, but you can't take this on by yourself and she is unusually young to be sexually active and therefore very vulnerable.

Totally agree @Almostthere15 thank you for the advice x

Speak to the school nurse linked to her school. She will be able to talk to her and help her tell her family that's she's sexually active and possibly pregnant.

I had the same situation a few years ago but I knew the family and the girl was a bit older. I told her mum.