Would you announce your pregnancy after your 12 week scan or wait for screening results?

[Velvete]

I have been a bit of a paranoid wreck during this first trimester and always thought that if I made it to 12 weeks I would relax and enjoy the pregnancy but instead I've started to worry and fret about other things potentially going wrong! I'm going to try and nip it in the bud and be positive.

I have my 12 week scan on Thursday where I will actually be 11+6 (and I have a long cycle so think I may be put back a couple of days). I have been counting down the days and hoping all is well so I can tell family and friends, and now I'm wondering if we should wait until the results of the screening tests come back.

I'm not sure what the "done thing" is.

@NotAsGreenAsCabbageLooking No need to apologise at all, I understand what you are saying.

I know that no one can actually know if they are high or low risk until they get their results, but what I wanted to get people's opinions on is whether or not it's "normal" to announce after the scan, or if people tend to wait for screening results.

I'm itching to tell people (and I definitely have the start of a bump/ bloat) and always planned on telling friends and family the day of a scan, all being well. It was only recently that I wondered about screening results.

I think if the scan is OK and no issues are flagged I'll tell my parents, in laws and close friends, and then other people I'll tell as and when we see them.

I think we looked up the nuchal measurement that was taken at the scan and could see it was normal/low risk. They also said we would be called within X days if high risk, so we also waited the X days before announcing anything. Will do similar this time, although this time I am older and not as eager to tell everyone, so might just wait for the letter. I know someone who recently had bad news after their scan, and subsequent testing, so I am feeling extra cautious TBH. Both times our parents new by 5 weeks anyway because we'd want support from then in the worst case scenario.

We told our parents and my work just after the scan as we were visiting both sets anyway that week (they live hours away). The nuchal measurement was promising and when we got back there was a letter with the low risk results.

We waited until we had the results of the combined test both times. It's a very personal decision with no right answer but I knew I didn't want to share good news then have to terminate for a trisomy.

This time I'll be waiting until after the screening results. Last time we told people immediately after the scan, then a week later got a letter with a consultant appointment but no notification of what it was for. Ended up being for my heart condition and the screening results were fine but I didn't find that out until the appointment. I spent that week wishing we hadn't told anyone!

I'm 13 weeks and we still haven't told anyone. Had scan last week and all okay, got results through the post within 2 days which was mental...very low risk so all good on that front. Will probably start telling family next week maybe! To be honest, I'm really enjoying the calmness of no one knowing at the moment! Although physically I am running out of baggy clothes to wear to work...

We had both an early (10 week) and a late (21 week) loss before this pregnancy so were very anxious.
Told my closest friends and a couple of amazingly supportive colleagues as soon as we had the BFP, because I really needed their support emotionally (and would have done if we had lost this baby). Told my parents after the 12 week scan, but before our test results which ended up being high risk, as I didn't want them to worry unnecessarily (they live a long way away), but didn't want them to find out by accident via social media. Told DD, work, ILs and close friends after amnio & 20 week scan were normal.
Until then I wore increasingly baggy clothes and looked like I was piling on the pounds so nobody was brave enough to ask if I was pregnant!
Haven't bothered telling anyone else, it became blatantly obvious once I switched to maternity clothes at 21 weeks!

I didn't wait until 12 weeks, it's a personal decision but I feel like if we had very sadly lost the baby then it would help to stop miscarriage being a 'taboo' topic.

If someone told me they were 7 weeks pregnant, then they lost the baby, I'm not going to think "they were stupid for telling people" I'm going to think "what a shame they lost their baby".

Like I said, it's a very personal choice :-)