Pregnant after miscarriage. Delighted but terrified.

[CobaltRose]

Hi everyone.

My first pregnancy sadly ended in a missed miscarriage in April. We'd been trying to conceive ever since, but this month decided to stop actively trying and just see what happens. I even started having the occasional drink again!

Well, I've just discovered that I am pregnant! I'm only 9DPO so it's still very early days, but I'm utterly delighted. But I'm also terrified that I'll have another miscarriage 😞

Is anyone else in the same boat? I'm in tears I'm so happy, but also utterly terrified.

I’m 14 weeks and lost my last baby at nearly 15 weeks. It was utterly harrowing to go through.
You need to relax as best you can until you get to the 12 week scan. Perhaps try mindfulness, a book or an app will help.

Absolutely nothing you can do will change what happened next, you just have to throw your hands up and accept it. This is the stance I took. As I’m in the very week I lost the baby last time I’m finding it particularly hard, but I’m just trying to look forward.

Best of luck.

Yes, I miscarried in December was actively trying again and now have my rainbow baby currently 24weeks pregnant 👶🏻💙

Congratulations! I have had miscarriages previously - a good few years ago - and am now 4+4 and terrified. There's no reason this bean won't stick, though. I am trying to take it one day at a time, accepting that I am pregnant TODAY, and not letting myself worry about the future. It's so stressful though, knowing what can go wrong. I will feel better when I've seen the midwife team and perhaps wangled an early scan.

Fingers crossed for us both!

Hi Cobalt, congratulations on your news!

I am in the same boat, I had an ectopic pregnancy in January and I didn't realise how devastated I would be. We caught again pretty soon after and I've just had my 12 week scan.

I'm not sure if it will put your mind at rest but you could go for an early scan from 6 weeks? I went to see my doctor and cried about being anxious and she said she would try and get me in for an early scan (she had to say I was having pain and a little bleeding as the EPU wouldn't see me otherwise) and I saw the heartbeat at 6.5 weeks, it made me less anxious

Congratulations!!

It definitely can happen. I had two miscarriages last year but now have a five-week old girl asleep on her play mat next to me!

Admittedly the miscarriages made it very difficult to enjoy being pregnant this time and I didn’t feel anything other than sheer panic until my 20 week scan but it all worked out fine. It will probably be quite scary for you this time round but take everything as it comes and probably stay away from google as it doesn’t fill you with confidence. Good luck!!

I had a MMC in January this year. I'm now 17+6. Fingers crossed everything is fine for you!! X

Congratulations!

I had two missed miscarriages last year at 11 and 12 weeks. It’s never something you fully get over but I am now 21 weeks with a healthy little boy and we cherish him and his health so much. The first trimester was horrendous for me mentally and I just kept telling myself it would probably go wrong so I felt more mentally prepared and if it was good news, it was a total bonus.

Congratulations!
I had a miscarriage in January this year at 12 weeks, unfortunately I have learned I am part of a big club that nobody wants to be in, but the silver lining is that because it’s big there are people out there with similar experiences who you can chat to. I am currently 10+5 weeks. I am an absolute nervous wreck, I had an early scan at 9 weeks which really helped but my symptoms have eased off and made me worry again so I have booked myself another one for this Sunday. My experience so far is that it is always a worry, even to the point I dread going to the toilet in case I see blood but that’s definitely not something I want to be doing. I am telling myself that nothing I do will change what will be and actually that does help :) I am a worrier by nature so I think I may worry throughout the pregnancy but I am on countdown to my dating scan where i will be 13 weeks! I think most of us will experience the same worry - what is really reassuring for me is seeing stats that said after seeing a heartbeat at 9wks there is something like a 98% chance the pregnancy will be ok. I paid privately for mine and if you can afford it I would definitely do it.