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Annoying things people say to pregnant women

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byanyothernamerose · 26/06/2018 09:50

So I am only in my first trimester (8+6) and not many people know that I am pregnant BUT......

Already I am finding myself irritated by comments from the people around me...for example:

  • having mild cramp and feeling nauseous...my husband says that it must be something I have eaten, I reply no I am just pregnant, and he continues to quiz what I've eaten
  • had nausea from very early on and has been pretty constant until recently...my mum says, it's far too early for symptoms...I say well what can I say I have them?? Mum just repeats her comment again and I am made to feel I am making it up?
  • staying at a friend's and absolutely shattered, so I take a nap, friend knows I am pregnant but tells me I am sleeping too much and that is making me lethargic.

Is it just me? This post is semi-lighthearted but I feel like until I have a huge bump everyone thinks I am making things up??

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GreenMeerkat · 27/06/2018 22:22

"Wow, you're big aren't you? Sure it's not twins in there?"

JerryGiraffe · 27/06/2018 23:57

Everyone i knew - Do you know what you're having?
Sarcastic me rubbing belly - Well I'm hoping for a puppy

Bebopaloula · 28/06/2018 01:54

This was my pet peeve during my first pregnancy. Tactless comments by, mostly, my MIL.
“Oh my god girl, you are huge!” Along with her “educated” guess that baby would be 10lbs when born. (She was a cutesy 7lb 15oz.)
Others were - are you having triplets?? you’re eating well then...? are you sure it’s only one? ooft - it’ll never be the same down there after u push her out!
Seriously? WTF?
Best response I always find is to say “what’s that supposed to mean?” And watch them squirm.

firy · 28/06/2018 02:15

My colleague today when I walked into the office with a Starbucks cup -

“Coffee? That’s not good for mama’s.”

It was decaf. And even if it wasn’t, it’s one cup of coffee and none of his damn business!

Also, in general when I tell people how far along I am, “But your bump is still so small?”

Yes. I have a uterine condition, so not much room for the little guy in there. Thanks for reminding me. And by the way, the baby is still measuring a good size and weighs the same as an average baby of this gestation, so my pregnancy waddle is not put on. Believe me.

ChevalierTialys · 28/06/2018 04:22

Vomitting started at week 2+2, continued relentlessly every day until 42+2 When they finally gave me a damn emcs. Hospitalised repeatedly throughout as was literally starving to death. Ondansetron (anti-sickness for chemo patients) saved my life.

Was told repeatedly that I was pregnant, not ill and a co-worker absolutely fucking insisted it was all in my head. "Just try this ginger tea, you'll feel so much better!" - ginger anything on it's way back up is like lava in your throat.

Spanglyprincess1 · 28/06/2018 06:46

My lovely sister who is now pregnant herself, is your ass pregnant? (I'm 6ft so no bump until 30weeks really and just looked fatter!)
I have big boobs - oh you will be fine breast feeding lots of food there (not sure thats how that works!!)

couchparsnip · 28/06/2018 07:26

Your mum seems to be the main problem! Maybe she needs to read up on pregnancy instead of assuming she knows it all! Can you get her a copy of What to Expect to shut her up.
I'd nip the attitude in the bud now.or she'll be worse when the baby's born.

byanyothernamerose · 28/06/2018 08:56

She does think she knows it all but all this is communicated by phone as I live in a different country from her...so hopefully the distance means it can never get too bad 🤞

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vampirethriller · 28/06/2018 09:18

You're very big for how far you are
You're small for how far you are
You're quite fat all over now aren't you
Definitely a boy (it's a girl)
Your bum is massive
Oh look you've got swollen hands too

Angry this is over two bloody days!

popcornaddict · 28/06/2018 10:01

Well after my first pregnany I wised up a bit by my 2nd one and had replies ready

The are you sure its not twins comment!!
When people said that to me I used to look at them confused and say..no why do you ask? Mostly they would just squirm away but if anyone said because you are huge I used to say..am I? My midwife and consultant think I'm small so I'm sure they know more than you.

Then the was it planned, what are you having etc questions if pleople I know asked I just told them to mind their own business and if people I didn't know asked I used to just look at them in disbelief and say...sorry do I know you?

Missy6413 · 28/06/2018 10:08

Ugh the last thing you need when feeling horrendous is stupud comments. You feel the way you feel and thats it!
Im 19 weeks now and so many things people just feel the need to say something bump related.
"Wow your bump is so big" no really its not and so what if it is? Everyone is different. In my opinion there is no need for ANY size comments. Just say i look great...even if i dont Wink
Also one i get every single day....
"Are you excited??" What a stupud question! And what would their face do if i said "No"???
Just for the record i am but they already know the bloody answer!!!

bowgumdrop2018 · 28/06/2018 11:56

Going into Iceland to do your weekly food shop and having the cashier tell you your growing an elephant baby!
'Please don't pop/ give birth in my shop'
'You sure it's not twins'
'Baby must be at least 10lbs by now'
Your sure it's not a boy your so big'
'Cor you look like your sister when your pregnant your face has gotten really fat'
That's just some of them I can remember! I'm 37+5 and had it up to here 🙋🏻 With it all now! Some people just need to disappear as if getting dressed in the morning isn't hard enough now I have to be aware what make me look bigger

cjferg · 28/06/2018 12:37

The ones that really annoyed me were

'oh it must be a boy because of how you're carrying' or some other old wives tale (didn't find out before the birth)

Turns out they were right but I kinda wanted a girl purely to prove everyone wrong.

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