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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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AngelDust94 · 25/06/2018 22:29

Hello everyone, I'm a new member here and I'm just looking for some advice I'm really sorry if im at the wrong place! I will give you some background to my situation. When I was 18 I had my first boyfriend and I lost my virginity to him, I later found out I was 5 months pregnant and before i knew it I was at a private clinic having an abortion. I didn't really get a say in this and we split up shortly after and that regret has lived with me for years. I then meet my current partner when I'm 21, 6 months into the relationship I find out he had another child with a woman, they were both 16 at the time, he has nothing to do with the child and he pays maintenance every month - they both were 'happy'with this set up. I was in shock but decided to stay, after all my dad has 2 children with another woman whom I do not know due to that woman being difficult and unreasonable- so I know some women are just evil when it comes to children. 3 years together we spoke about getting my coil out and if I became pregnant then that's fine! Cue to now, 7 months later. I found out today I'm 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant. As I thought it was something he wanted I wrapped the tests in a box and gave it to him as a present. He came home from work opened the present and now he's changed his mind, he wants me to have an abortion. He called it all a mistake. He said hes not doing it. He actually got quite angry. I'm now in the bedroom crying my eyes out with the prospect I am probably gonna have to do this alone. I'm upset as I feel led up the garden path and that possibly this is what he did to his ex way back when they were 16. There is no way hell I'm having an abortion, the one I had when I was 18 messed me up and i ended up taking an overdose and in counselling for years afterwards, since I've found out I was pregnant I've felt complete again. Do you think he will change his mind and maybe it's just the shock talking? Does anyone else have an experience like mine?

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Sunflower2018 · 25/06/2018 23:09

Awh that sounds like a horrible situation to be in and I feel for you. Give him a few days. He might be in shock, as are you. He obviously has said things that he thought you wanted to hear and now that you are pregnant he is freaking out.

Try and stay focused on you and your baby. You clearly know what you want and that is to keep your baby and you have every right to do so!

Do you have family or friends you could speak too? It might help you x

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