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*GRAPHIC IMAGE* Miscarriage advice please...

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jessica1303 · 24/06/2018 13:36

Around 8 weeks pregnant...
I had light brown spotting last week and then on Tuesday night and into a Wednesday I had pinky/red spotting. I spoke to a midwife over the phone on Wednesday morning who booked me in for an early scan. The earliest she could get me was a week away, so the 27th June. She told me if the bleeding got worse to ring again, Wednesday evening I was having light cramps. By light cramps I mean very light, I’ve had worse cramps with periods. But bleeding was heavier, it had gone from spotting to bleeding through my jeans. As it was out of hours, I rang 111. That was fun, I swear they are useless. I spoke to two different people who “assessed” me before I managed to speak to a doctor. Eventually about 2 hours later I spoke to a doctor over the phone, I had to explain everything again as no information had been passed on to her. She was the most insensitive person I had ever spoken to. She told me I had PROBABLY miscarried and that sometimes it’s just not meant to be. As if that would somehow ease my pain.
Quick side note - Husband and I have been trying for over 5 years, had 1 failed IVF attempt, a chemical pregnancy and now this all in the space of the last year.
This doctor told me to see my regular GP on Thursday. So I rang my doctors surgery first thing Thursday morning and would told a doctor would ring me within a couple hours and they may decide to bring me in. The doctor rang me, I explained everything all over again. Because reliving all these conversations is just what I want! He said that is sounded suspiciously like a miscarriage. He then told me to keep the early scan the midwife had booked for me on the 27th June and it will be confirmed then. Apparently I still could not get a earlier scan.
So now it is the horrible waiting game, I need closure and I’m having to go through it all again on Wednesday. I keep swapping between it’s definitely a miscarriage and maybe there’s still hope and it’s killing me. It’s also making it hard for my husband as he is trying to deal with the miscarriage and I am all over the place.

I have attached a picture trombone wednesday night when I had the most bleeding, it seems obvious that this is a miscarriage. I think so just need to hear it from more people to process it and this isn’t really something I feel comfortable showing to my friends and family and asking for their opinions.

Sorry for the graphic picture.

OP posts:
delilabell · 24/06/2018 13:40

I'm so sorry jessica that you've Neen treated so poorly.
Yes that does seem like a full miscarriage to me.
Look after yourself.

abbsisspartacus · 24/06/2018 13:47

I am so sorry Flowers

WildGarlicc · 24/06/2018 13:51

I'm really sorry to hear what you're going through. The last year sounds overwhelming. And what is happening right now sounds harrowing.

Unfortunately though, what more can the NHS do? A scan will obviously confirm what is going on but unfortunately there is nothing they can do to help you either way, so getting one any sooner isn't really necessary, from a healthcare point of view. I do understand the waiting must be difficult but I don't think you have been treated poorly. Many people need closure on traumatic things and have to wait, which isn't unreasonable treatment but it is unfortunate. I'm sorry you're experiencing this.

The advice above is good - look after yourself. And I hope the staff at your scan on Wednesday are sensitive and supportive.

LolaLilo · 24/06/2018 14:08

I'm so sorry but I do think you're right I'm thinking you've had a miscarriage Thanks

Gemsie1984 · 25/06/2018 06:35

I'm so sorry. From the picture and what you've written, I'd say you've miscarried. I'm sorry you've been treated so badly, that wouldn't have helped the trauma of it all. It's also ridiculous that you needed a GP referral to EPU and they refused to do it..:( big hugs for you.

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