Comments about weight

[polly8664]

Is anyone else getting double-edged comments about their weight and finding it annoying? At 28 weeks, i've put on a stone and i'm mostly bump and boobs. I feel fine about my size/weight, but it seems that if someone comments that I look neat, it has to be followed up with 'at the moment' or 'don't expect it to last'. One colleague in particular i'm sure is desperate for me to put on loads of weight judging by the comments she mutters. i ate burgers now and again for lunch pre-pregnancy, eating one now doesn't mean i'm letting myself go. Arggg! Sorry for the rant. you can tell i'm at work at the moment

Whatever they say will be annoying . I got lots of 'huge baby' comments (I out on about 2 1/2 stone in total) and a) DS was only 7 1/2 lbs though he's big now and b) I lost it all in 5 months. Just nod and smile

ignore them.
they are irrelevant.

Hi had comments about my weight all the way through my pregnancy. It really got to me, but then I gave birth to a 10lb baby and lost all my pregnancy weight within a month I would say ignore them, but it is difficult i know!

My MW told me I was obese and mustn't gain any more weight and sent me off for a string of diabetes tests because I put on 2.5 stone during PG - She told me this when I was 8 months PG, I was so upset I cried for days.

Actually I might be overweight but I walk a mile a day and live v healthy....the diabetes results came back negative.

I am pretty overweight yes but I feel happy and healthy and I am inclined to just ignore the various 'health professionals' who seem to have lumped me in with Vicky Pollard just because I gained a lot of weight in PG.

Screw 'em

It's hard, but I'm going to ignore them. Smile a good smile and remember that i've only got another 4 weeks to work and I won't see them for 10 months! Yippee. How i dream of walking back next May in a size 10 dress. Dream on.

The next person who says to me 'god you are massive' are going to have a headache where I have nutted them
What do they expect- there is a baby in there!!!!
Doesn't bother me all the time but when everyone you see says it then its bound to get you down.
Never mind- we will be the smug ones when we have our gorgeous little babies, have had 9 months off work and go back to work and look fab!!
PPS (31+6)
XXX

me too princesspowersparkle! but then people just don't sem to be able to keep comments to themselves when speaking to a pregnant person.

I have also had people asking me if I have developed piles or if I wee when I laugh! WTF!

Like that would ever come up in conversation any other time.

LOL @ Elbarto! Next time they ask you that ask them if they've got them! That'll shut em up!
X

I most definitely will in future.

Oh pregnancy, its all glamour isnt it!!

Isn't it just! I'm just suprised more men don't up and leave when their partners turn into breast leaking, stretchmarked, saggy boobed, sick, spotty, moany, achy, paranoid hyperchondriacs with piles!
xx

I agree - i am SO sick of people commenting on the size of my bump. For the first four-five months it was constantly about how small it was and how i was hardly showing, and since that it's been about how enormous it is! You can't win! But i guess in most cases it's just a slightly misguided attempt at flattery or something. That's what i tell myself to avoid getting too wound up anyway!

In defence of clueless childless people everywhere, I think it's the first thing that pops into people's heads when talking to a pregnant lady. I used to be v v guilty of all the things you ladies rant about . Thoughtless but not deliberately so.

I was told by someone at work "My god, you are massive!"
It was the final straw for me so I retaliated with "At least I have an excuse!" and then flounced (waddled really) off. It was mean but really, where are these peoples' brains?!
It worked though as apparently she paranoid all week and never commented on my weight again...

I used to just stare at them as if I was waiting for them to finish. Say nothing, don't laugh it off or make it ok for them and just leave them to flounder....

I used to HATE it. You have my full sympathy.

I have just had the doctor (female), tell me that i shouldn't put on any more weight (am 25wks)and to ignore my apetite. I am over weight but have only put about 8lbs so far.

hey lizziemun

They said that to me too, I was so upset, esp as since being PG I don't just get hungry, I get ravenous to the point of killing anyone in my way.

They based that on my BMI being 36 (when I was 8 months PG) - in the end, I say live healthy, eat healthy foods, exercise, then so what about sodding BMI etc.

Better a happy pregnancy than an anxious one. Too much emphasis is on weight IMO.

Honestly, I couldn't agree with you all more. EVERYONE has something to say to me and it's always how massive my bump is, have I had it checked for twins (??), how huge I'm going to be etc etc.... I thought I was losing the plot as I didn't see it when I looked in the mirror but when my midwife came over for my 28 wk appt last week the first thing she said was how well I'd done keeing my weight down and that all looked great. I know I've put weight on but blimey, you'd think I'd turned into a double decker bus rather than a stone and a half at nearly 30 weeks preg....

I'm not defending the tactless, bitchy comments - they're out of order - but I do remember before my own pregnancies being really astonished seeing pregnant women close up. I just couldn't believe how much a tummy could stretch. And even in my pregnancies, I would sometimes look down on my own 9 month bumps in disbelief - or do a real double take when I caught sight of my profile in a shop window! Big bumps are fascinating/weird/wonderful... So I can sort of understand people's inappropriate blurtings about BUMPS - but general comments about weight are just wrong. Polly, the comments you've been getting just sound bitchy, not remotely about the wonder of the baby bump - ignore them!