Pregnancy and gossipy mother

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I recently found out I am pregnant with baby #3, both me and DH are excited. Decided to keep it quiet until first scan but might tell parents earlier. My parents live quite far away and I don't see them very often, they are coming over soon to stay with us for couple of weeks. First 2 pregnancies were announced through the phone and I would love to finally make an announcement face to face as this baby would be our last one. Problem is, my mother is a blabbermouth and I am 99,9% sure she will not keep her mouth shut. She will get excited and tell people (those would be her friends who know me and their children who also know me, also relatives) and then lie to me that she hasn't, it has happened before, I confronted her and she denied it all. I am dying to tell her, I also know she would love being around me during my pregnancy even if it's only for few weeks because she didn't see me during my previous pregnancies. I don't know what to do, accept the fact that other people will find out about my pregnancy early but I will get to see my parent's excited faces or just keep quiet, pretend nothing has happened and tell them about it later during the phone call like I have done before.
Maybe it sounds like a silly problem but it really bugs me. I know my dad wouldn't tell a soul but unfortunately nobody can keep my mum quiet. Even if she would swear she won't tell anyone, I wouldn't believe her.
Any suggestions would be highly appreciated. Thanks.

Don’t tell her yet? When wil you see her next after?

I am in a similar situation, and as the only way to be sure the news doesn't come out before I want it to is to keep schtum, I have decided not to say anything until I'm ready for people generally to know. No doubt this will create a different problem, as my mum will be offended that I haven't told her earlier, but I just don't want to have to deal with other people knowing before I'm ready.

After this I won't see her until the baby is born probably.

How far along are you?

I am about 6 weeks pregnant, parents are coming over next week.

You will have to balance how nice it is to tell them in person versus how much you want to keep it quiet.

Is there a particular reason you could arrange to visit them once you are further along?

My parents live overseas and as much as we would love to travel to each other every few months, we can't do it for various reasons. Their visit was arranged long before I got pregnant and next visit will be some time next year.

Ok. In which case you aren’t going to bump into the people she tells then.

Again it’s down to which thing is more important, telling them
in person or keeping the information private.

Flip a coin. If it comes up “wrong” you’ll know the answer.

My mother is the same, however... she lives close by.

I wouldn’t tell her because I know she’d tell everyone (and probably not even remember telling them!).

Having everyone then know I’d lost my baby was horrible. So she never gets to know now until it’s public knowledge.

Sorry... missed key info in that post!
I’ve told her previously and asked her to keep it to herself... she told loads of people 🙄

I'd say as she lives abroad and the people she'll tell will presumably not be near you, I'd tell her, tell her not to tell anyone until 3 months or whenever but accept in your head that she will ignore you. The people she tells will hassle her for news, not you. I'd let this go if you're not going to see her again for a year.

She also knows people here and will be seeing them whilst visiting. So if I tell her it would have to be just before they head back after she is done socializing with others.

Tell her on the last day then.

She will still be spending time with you when you're pregnant if she knows it or not. If you wait till she is just about to go back you won't particularly get to share it anyway. Personally I am a pretty private person and someone gossiping about me, especially someone so close, would really take the shine off it for me.

It’s a toss up between not telling her and then when you do finally tell her explaining you would’ve liked to tell her sooner but can’t as she blabs, or just telling her because she’s your mother and hoping she doesn’t blab and enjoying the time together even if she will.

Telling her on the last day sounds like a good compromise! Suggest a nice meal at home just you and them for the last evening, tell them, then keep them with you until they go . If she complains about you not telling her before, just tell her she can't be trusted and remind her of last time.