Size of bump/body comments

[Lisabecket121]

I'm now 28 weeks +5 and just over the last few days have started getting work acquaintances comment on the size of my bump! rudeness! This has happened twice by people who I literally only know by sight at work; have never worked together on any projects or even had a chat before.
I've been told I look like I'm due to give birth in a few weeks, and one woman today literally gawped at me with her mouth open exaggeratedly when I told her i'm due early September and repeated "oh my god, oh my god you've got AGES"...like excuse me are you the one carrying around this weight?!

Honestly as I've gone through trimesters, I can't believe the increased number of people that stare openly like they've never seen a prego woman before in their and /or come out with these rude comments!

I just wanted a moan, anyone else or is this just me?!

Oh and I had a growth scan this week and am measuring spot on. I know my bump is pretty big (I mean, I AM carrying a baby?!) but overall I'm pretty much in proportion. Even if I wasn't though, I don't expect random people to point out my perceived bodily flaws!! jesus!

I feel you. I really really do! I am due in 2 and a half weeks and let me tell you the comments get worse and worse. It’s just bollocks and you need to ignore it - I think they just want something to say. The number of times I’ve heard “are you sure it’s not twins?!?” “You’ll never make it to the due date” “gosh he’s a BIG boy in there” ..it really pisses me off and I wish I’d had the nerve to say “why do you think that’s what a heavily pregnant woman would like to hear?”

In the beginning I had people commenting on how small my bump was, which also pissed me off lol so I think people should just shut up frankly!

The comments are irritating I agree, but I actually think people can’t win in this situation... and I don’t think they are being malicious at all.

If they ignored it entirely, it’d be upsetting... because being pregnant is a big deal when it’s happening to you. Being called small is insulting but so is being called big.. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I remember being at my gp’s on my due date, some woman commented on how big I was, and how I couldn’t have long left! I replied with the fact I was due that day, and her face changed to an unimpressed look and she said ‘oh, well you’re not that big then’ and walked off!! 😂😂

id try to take it with a pinch of salt. I am 18+3 and ive really 'popped' lol and the past week ive had everyone comment at work, but i think its sweet as im not the most chatty person so its nice theyre taking an interest in me, its such an exciting time and its nice seeing people i barely speak to have some element of excitement for me. (i dont tend to care about any of them so its strange but sweet haha)

but i can see how it can be upsetting if you dont like it x

I get this completely and I really don't think people think before they speak what so ever I've had a range of comments from checkout workers to family ..I had my sister in law telling me my face has got really fat and she said it in a rather harsh way and I've been told by Iceland checkout worker that I'm carrying an elephant baby 🤦🏻‍♀️ And that I'm huge and to not give birth in the shop on separate occasions! it really is just the way people are these days and I think the woman seem to forget they have had children and how they would of felt with comments like the ones they are making ! I get looks and questions on my age aswell which just increases my anger 😂 I'm almost 21 and tbh I think these days that's just average to some as I know many girls my friends included who had children at 16 ( I have no issue with this btw) so don't really see why people open their mouths unless their being nice 🤷🏻‍♀️ !! I've been told I look to young to be a mum and asked if I'm 17 ect so just try let it go over your head as overwise you turn into some ball of anger like me 😂 3 weeks left to go 😩

Yuuup
And im measuring 8 weeks ahead 🤔
Only 29 weeks. Yes its 1.
Yes im in pain.

Yes hes big.
Thank you.

I also had some idiot telling me how horrible it will be to have a summer baby last week. Like ok then, thanks, guess I’ll tell him to stay in until next season then 👍🏻🙄

Nothing was as bad as the receptionist at the GP who was a woman in her 50s while I was booking my 36 week appointment:
Her “is this your first baby”
Me “yes”
Her “my first baby died”
......ok......not really something a first time mother needs to hear at her GP/midwife appt...

I am still irrationally irritated at the random man who called from his car ‘not long now’ when I was 6 months pregnant. Dick.

Omg crispy!!!

It’s just small talk. It’s just something to say.

I had twins. People either told me I was huge for twins or tiny for twins, often minutes apart.

It’s like talking about the weather, it’s meaningless.

I know it’s a bit personal but really they’re not “pointing out perceived bodily flaws” ?!?
That’s paranoid. How is having a lovely big bump growing a baby a flaw?

Ignore, ignore, ignore! I still remember bring told I was

'enorrrrrmous - it must be twins, right?'

and also

'sooooo small - I can't believe you're seven months, are you sure you're not only four or five...'

both by different people in the space of about ten minutes.

moreismore

I hope you threw something at the car 😂

museumum

I just think when you are heavily pregnant and you feel like a fat house and swollen, horrible etc, you don’t really need or want someone coming along and pointing out that you are large. You are already aware. Being pregnant doesn’t automatically give people the right to comment on your shape and size - people wouldn’t dream of saying to someone usually “what a big stomach you have”.

Yep. Have had comments like all of the above. One woman told me (at 24 weeks) that she wasn't even that big at 41 weeks and she had an 11lb baby. I'm hoping it was just an excuse to talk about when she had a baby. Generally seems like people want to be able to make a comment, and don't always think it through or consider how comments will come across. I try to laugh at the more ridiculous ones, but some are easier than others to shrug off (like "wow! Book that c section now!" Or "ooh, that's going to be sore coming out. Suppose there's no going back now!"....)

It’s the other way for me. I’m 26 with twins and people don’t even realise I’m pregnant.

I went baby clothes shopping yesterday
and was asked in both shops who the clothes were for. I want more recognition goddammit!

Yep, I'm so sick of it I don't want to talk to anyone anymore, only 3 1/2 months to go.

I am 27 weeks and am having the same frustrations. I do not mind people commenting but it's what people think they have the right to say that is the problem. My bump is up quite high so it looks like I have very big and I have had all of the above including, "I wasn't that big when I got to 9 months" and "are you sure it's not twins - I would be worried and get the Dr to check". The twins comment particularly gets to me as I was pregnant with twins but lost one at 10 weeks.

On what planet does a pregnant woman want to be told they are huge? Use some common sense!

On what planet does a pregnant woman want to be told they are huge? Use some common sense!

This!

See, I do like it!! I want some visual recognition for the fact that I am struggling!

I don’t want to have got through nine months of sobriety, discomfort and pain to hardly look pregnant 😂

I used to love being told I was massive, and quite put out by those that said I was small (in their opinion).

I used to love being told I was massive, and quite put out by those that said I was small (in their opinion).

I completely understand this as well, I just think there’s a WAY of phrasing it. You know? In a complimentary manner, not a “Christ you look like a beached whale” type thing 😂

I've had this but from family, telling me I'm "huge" "bumps grown massively since last week", "I certainly won't make it full term" and "well the baby certainly has a good appetite!" And yet friends and colleagues are telling me that from some angles I don't even look pregnant!! I don't feel that I am particularly big for my stage of pregnancy (28 + 3) and I know I am more sensitive at the moment but it's starting to p*ss me off!!

I know they don't mean it maliciously and would probably be mortified if they knew it was starting to upset me but just wish people would think before speaking. They've been through it but seem to forget how sensitive you can feel! You just need to remember that as long as your GP/Midwife is happy then there's nothing to worry about, just tell them all to sod off!

I've had this from the other side; people telling me I'm too small and not showing at all!! Talk about making you feel worried about babies size and weight.

I feel for you. I've been getting the same from the opposite end.

Bump is quite small despite being 37 weeks this Friday. Had multiple people think it's their right to comment on "if I'm even pregnant!" Or things similar. Right down to random people I don't even know.

It hurts. We had to have a growth scan (all fine!) Due to the size. Having people constantly comment makes me feel like a failure. Or like my uncomforts and pains shouldn't exist because I'm small.

It feels demeaning and insulting and like I'm doing something wrong or I'm just being a drama queen.

I wish people would learn to keep their opinions to themselves! Waiting for the growth scan (only a day luckily) with all that worry and having my food shop delivery guy making remarks on how small I was really upset me. It added to my already anxious brain regarding if she was okay.

People should learn to keep their opinions to themselves, be it because we have big bumps or little bumps!