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Going to be a single mum but have crazy ex

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Izzyw1983 · 17/06/2018 12:12

Ok I have always been told I wouldn't be able to get pregnant so for the last 10 years = 3 partners I've not used contraception..... after dating a guy for 3 months found out I was pregnant. He was happy about it and we planned on living together...then all of a sudden he started getting nasty...starting arguments ...then blaming it on being tired??....being really lazy.... not washing much....
The last argument I ended it (3 weeks ago now)
Since then he has been harrassing me.....continuously slagging me off on fb and to his friends saying I won't let him see the baby when it's born...even though I've always said I would never stop him or his mother.....but on messages and emails one minute telling me how much he loves me and how he's heart broken....then being nasty calling me names and accusing me of cheating and that's why I wanted to end it...asking if the baby is his (No definitely didn't cheat)...
I've had the police involved which made it worse.
He had always been shady about his past relationships and said he was abused by his ex's (plural)
I decided to contact his ex wife and she said they ended because he cheated on her twice....after they split.... she had to have the police involved because of violence and threats...she begged me not to let him see the baby....she said he will lash out.
I don't know what to do..
I'm scared of what will happen.

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Gracielou02 · 17/06/2018 14:24

Hi
Horrible situation for you i am sorry to hear it. How many weeks are you?
Have you got a supportive family that live close by? And someone to talk to about this?
He sounds like an awful man and the fact his ex wife said he was violent makes me concerned i wouldnt let him in your home. One good thing is that the police know about him. Id try and talk to family/friends about this.
Also i know its hard but do ignore is pathetic messages and social media rants hes trying to get a reaction off you.

Izzyw1983 · 17/06/2018 14:36

Im 12 weeks now.... The police think it's just a domestic argument and just put it down to that....they asked me if I wanted them to see him I said no...they went and told him I made a complaint about him anyway....which has started all this off again after a week of peace....
I have my mum who didn't like him from the start so it's I told u so type of thing and I don't have any other family.... I'm worried if I move away he will take me to court...but I'm scared to let him near the baby when it arrives

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Gracielou02 · 17/06/2018 15:05

Your mum will come round she has to surely tell her you dont need sympathy of whats happened you just need support and advice. If he comes anywhere near you or threatening behaviour report him again. Save all meassges off him and screen shot his silly boy rants on social media if you can. If he calls you names and all that stuff just let it go over your head hes just trying to get in your head and mess it up. You dont want to be getting stressed out. You shouldnt have to move away because off his actions and the fact he doesnt know how to treat someone right especially the woman carry his baby. I doubt it’ll come to court, and you have a very high chance of winning with his violent past. Thats why you should report all of his behaviour and keep messages ect...

Izzyw1983 · 17/06/2018 15:40

I'm moving cos I need another bedroom lol....so he won't know where I am

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