DH doesn't understand/won't sympathise.....

[Washersaurus]

I am 31 weeks and am finding it difficult/impossible to explain to DH just how knackered I sometimes feel (and that I am not a grumpy cow just because I can't always find that ear to ear smile when serving him his dinner on his arrival home from work.) I am a SAHM with 22mth DS, which I love. It is just making me sad that my DH is treating this pregnancy like a small inconvenience that shouldn't really impact on our lives at all. Yet he was so supportive and understanding when I was pregnant with DS.

Over the past few days he has accused me of being disorganised because I didn't have the menu for the week planned out; being unreasonably moody & miserable, and of being generally slack by swanning off to visit my family while he is at work.

DH always used to ensure that I had some money of my own in my bank account, and DH's work was super flexible meaning we could share more family time together; but DH has recently changed jobs meaning that this is no longer possible. We are also suffering a financial blip that makes me not working a PITA and is adding to the stress.

I feel like he expects me to suddenly be a 1950's housewife....TBH I feel trapped and there is no escape as I'm pregnant again. I can't seem to discuss this with DH without us having an argument. He just keeps saying it was my choice to not return to work after we had DS so I shouldn't complain.

something pinged in my head when you mentioned money - money is the cause of a lot of stress and worry in many relationships and perhaps your DH is worried about that, as he is the sole income earner but instead of tackling his worries about that he is being snappy etc with you?
I am not excusing his behaviour if it makes you feel crappy but perhaps this may be the root of it - i may be way of the mark but i think you need to sit down and discuss it with him

Not trying to excuse him in any way because I hink he shouldn't be snapping at you for things like that. But would it be worth trying to find out how he's feeling about work right now, the prospect of being plunged into sleepless nights and whther he feels he's managing as a provider for you all. It's just that with his previously 'good record' perhaps there's more to this situation than meets the eye?

Much sympathy though, being pregnant with a small toddler is bloody hard work - personally I found it easier after the baby came! Have you had an iron test recently - it's common to need some iron towards the end of pg to help with the fatigue.

Well, he starts new 'proper' job next week after a few months of a stop-gap contract job to keep some (not enough) money coming in, so maybe that will help.

I had an iron test last week and am still waiting for the results - I was wondering if there were any other supplements I can take to help with my low energy levels.

DH has apologised for snapping at me this evening, and promptly buggared off down the pub...

sounds like DH is stressed & not wishing to burden you with it & you are knackered & feeling unappreciated, never a good combination for marital bliss. Can you get someone to mind DS for a couple of hours where you go for a walk in the park (or whatever floats yer boat ) and talk things through. I always find things are better out in the open rather than festering under the surface.