Wedding two weeks after due date...

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I have a friends wedding two weeks after my due date, first baby, do I RSVP yes or no ?

Hmm... how good is this friend?
I’d be inclined to turn down the invite, you may still be pregnant at that point (I went 14 days overdue with my first).

Also, I felt aesthetically disgusting after giving birth, the thought of trying to get myself looking good enough at that point would have finished me.. I did have PND though.

It's hard to say. I know people who had babies and were out clubbing a week later. You don't know how your going to feel after the birth. That's if you've given birth by then as you could go 2 weeks overdue.

Personally I wouldn't have been up for a wedding so soon after having a baby as I was knackered from night feeds and feeling crap because I obviously still had all the baby weight and just wasn't feeling confident in myself.

But everyone is different.

I'd decline now. Too many what-ifs that may mean cancelling at the last minute and leave her with a space she could have filled.

Decline! Baby might not have arrived by then . You could still be in hospital. If you are like me I was sloooooowly sitting down and sloooooowly standing up at that stage. Imagine having to spend the whole day talking to people.

It would be a hard no from me, I'd say your friend is being polite inviting you but won't be the least bit offended if you say no

I’ll add to my response... after my second baby, I went on a hen weekend when he was 8 weeks old.

I think at that point I just needed to feel like me again, and not a baby carrying vessel. The thought of a hotel room all to myself and a full nights sleep was heaven also.

So you may well feel up to just being out and about again. There’s just no telling 🤷🏻‍♀️

I got married a week after the birth of my first lol. X

Unless it is an incredibly informal wedding and a very laid-back bride who doesn't mind the fact that you might have to drop out, I think you have to decline.

You might not have had the baby yet. You might have had the baby and be dealing with issues with feeding or birth injuries. You might have a four-week old and be feeling absolutely brilliant. You can't really ask your friend to gamble a place at her wedding on those what-ifs.

I agree with a pp - if she knows your approx due date she probably doesn't expect you to come.

You could be having the baby on that day (I was 14 days overdue with my first two).

Are they having an evening do?

If it’s a really good friend and you would be gutted not to share their day could you ask if you could pop along to the evening bit (if you are available/up to it)? That way you’re not at risk of having to pull out last minute and waste a meal/space or mess the bride around.

If they are not a bridezilla a good friend, they will understand the dilemma.

Unless you are Kate Middleton, then to be brutally honest, I’d say you’ve got no chance.
I know I couldn’t have done it.
Ten days overdue, induction, I would have only then just got back from hospital.
Lady bits full of stitches, baby feeding every two hours and about three hours sleep a night if I was lucky.
These mums that are going out clubbing, well good on them. But I think you’d have to have a small baby, a fairly straight forward birth, with no injuries and have the baby straight on formula for this to be possible.

How good is the friend?

If my wedding had been so close to a friend’s due date, I would have told her to just let me know a couple of days before the wedding so that I could let the venue know. I would have planned for her to attend, but had a backup table plan if not.

I would talk to him/her :)

I wouldn't have wanted to do it within 2 weeks of giving birth.

Thank you for the advise, I will let her know it’s a no but if we’re feeling upto it and circumstances allow, we will come down for the evening x