Underweight and pregnant after MMC

[Charlbx]

Hi all,

December last year I had a MMC at 9 weeks and had a D&C. It was the most heartbreaking thing I have ever went through. I often blame myself because me and my partner planned that pregnancy but fell pregnant straight away after having my coil removed but my health probably wasn’t in the best situation. I have always struggled with issues with my weight and had a diagnosed eating disorder when I was younger. Although I have no issues with food now no matter how much I eat I struggle to put weight on.

Now, six months on I am pregnant again. My partner completely freaked out because after what we went through last time neither of us are ready for the possibility of that happening again. I found out straight away (I know what my body does the minute I fall pregnant) and I’m only four weeks now but the anxiety is crippling. My BMI is only 17.3, I’ve upped my calorie intake even more and have started pre natal vitamins but I don’t think I can start to enjoy the pregnancy or even accept it because I’m scared.

Does anybody have any advice on how to deal with the anxiety?

I fell pregnant but didn't realise until about 9 weeks in January this year. I went for my 12 week scan and was told there was no heart beat and that the baby was only measuring at 8 weeks. Needless to say I was distraught.

I still see/hear the exact words that came from the nurse' mouth and it breaks me.

I am now pregnant again (16+3) and my lord, I have worried about everything! I was told by my midwife to take everything in 4-5 week blocks. First MW appointment, 12 week scan, 16 week MW appointment, 20 week scan and so on.

You could always try simple things like knitting (I enjoy that, I'm 20 so will be a brilliant granny one day with the experience!) or colouring in therapeutic books...

Good luck, it's a stressful time but try to relax as there's nothing that we can do other than keep our self in shape, calm and relaxed. Mother Nature does the rest and there's nothing more we can do about it! Xx

First of all, congratulations!

I’m only 21 myself so taking up a hobby might be a good idea just don’t think I’ll be very good at knitting. I’m trying to keep my stress down but every twinge I feel I start to panic. Although this pregnancy isn’t planned I want it more than ever. A lot of my friends have started families and I’ve also had an early miscarriage when I was 18. Because it’s happened twice now I’m completely on edge that it may happen again x

I had a miscarriage last year in December which was incomplete and it was the worst experience of my life and I was 22. We tried again me and my partner we both knew it was what we wanted after losing that one. Previous to that I was on the pill and was about 16/17 when I had my first miscarriage and that wasn't something I could deal with then. I'm now pregnant again 22weeks and 5 days, when you've had a miscarriage it's hard not to worry in the first trimester but saying that you'll probably be like me and worry about every small thing throughout the pregnancy but be reassured website like Mumsnet and baby centre are life savers and calling the midwife just for reassurance of handy too! Try not to worry easy said and done but in the end it's worth it!

Sorry to hear of your losses.

I've had 3 miscarriages, first at 17weeks, second at 8 weeks and third at 5 weeks. However I am now cuddling my 7 week old little boy. As hard as it is, just take each day at a time. It doesn't get any easier and I still worry now he's here. There is always so much support on here. And congratulations, you seem like you are doing everything you can to be healthy for you and your little baby xxx

I’m trying to stay optimistic. I’ve just finished work and I’m on my way to the doctors to tell them. I don’t think it’ll all sink in properly until I’ve had my first scan