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I am getting very very faint lines on the tests that i am doing...can anyone tell me what this means?

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MrsSausage · 22/05/2007 16:58

I am very very ambivalent about another baby and this was highly unexpected but i would like to know where i stand here

i have done an embarassment of tests. they are mainly showing a faint positive. a few are negative.

i had bleeding ("old blood" IYKWIM, sorry for TMI) on Sunday, assumed early period tbh, but it stopped. Bleeding isn't really the word.

period due today I THINK. Hard to say because have not actually completed a cycle since last baby born.

Both my other kids-strong positive tests.

Am using super cheapo strip tests from advance diagnostics, does this make a difference?

am namechanger for obv reasons atm

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lulumama · 23/05/2007 09:30

oh dear

sorry you have reached an impasse

obviously, the final decision is yours, but it is complex isn;t it?

you were taking steps to prevent pregnancy, they failed, and you are pregnant..so i guess the options are to sit and talk it through again and again or maybe go for some outside counselling

can you be as black and white as doing a pros / cons list? on paper, it might be more manageable with a 3rd baby..or not..sometimes you have to let your head lead for a while, not your heart

i don;t envy you this situation

wishing you lots of strength x

LongDistanceClara · 23/05/2007 09:32

How will you feel about him if you have a termination against your wishes though? You say you love him now, but, personally, I couldn't love somebody who'd made me do that. I would resent him for all eternity.

TootyFrooty · 23/05/2007 09:34

Agree with LDC. If you want a termination then fine but if you don't then I would be concerned that you'll struggle to get over it and will resent your dp. I know I would.

What a really hard time for you Mrs S.

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mrssausage · 23/05/2007 09:35

oh yes, i def would

this is the problem

and he will resent me if I DON'T

my last baby was seriously hard work. seriously. still is

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LieselVentouse · 23/05/2007 09:37

Sorry to hear this, why cant he cope with this? How many DCs do you have?

LongDistanceClara · 23/05/2007 09:39

I really, really feel for you - it's a horrible situation to be in

Can you look at ways to get support with the older children when the baby's born? Will the oldest be at school? The youngest at preschool/nursery?

belgo · 23/05/2007 09:40

mrs sausage - just because your second baby was difficult does not mean to say that a third baby will be difficult!

Even if you have another 'difficult' baby, you will have learnt a vast amount of parenting skills from your first two babies, so will be able to cope better.

You say you've just had a bad night, and this is probably clouding your dp's reaction.

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mrssausage · 23/05/2007 09:40

i have 2

childcare is a Bone Of Contention atm

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mrssausage · 23/05/2007 09:41

belgo that does give me great hope

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TootyFrooty · 23/05/2007 09:41

Nightmare. My dses have always been hard work (still very very young) and ds2 is turning into a great form of contraception! Seriously, I know that I would find it so so hard if I fell pg now. I wouldn't terminate (am pro choice but couldn't do it myself) but I know I would be ill (as I was with both my pgs) and probably depressed (ante and post natal) and the thought of another difficult baby would terrify me. And then I look at my gorgeous dses and think "Ok, maybe we could do it".

I hope you're ok Mrs S.

belgo · 23/05/2007 09:41

why is it a bone of contention?

belgo · 23/05/2007 09:42

it must be far more of a shock to have two easy babies, and then a difficult baby.

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mrssausage · 23/05/2007 09:44

yes this is another thing

i get very ill and also get tired

i am feeling like shite now, i am trying to put it down to a hard night but...

childcare....i can't say, as this will def out me, but-I'm not going to be looking at much childcare really. Thats a static.

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mrssausage · 23/05/2007 09:47

well! Good News!

he has emailed me to say that if i am sure i can't terminate, that is it, we will have to cope

oh thank christ for that

i mean not really but...

there is also the very salient point that we have No Money and will need, at the least, a bigger car, oh and we've given away all our baby stuff, but these are details.

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belgo · 23/05/2007 09:49

oh I'm so glad he's sent that email!

TootyFrooty · 23/05/2007 09:49

I'm so pleased for you Mrs S! I wish you a happy and easy pregnancy and an angel baby.

lulumama · 23/05/2007 09:50

Mumsnet will sort you out with all the baby stuff you need !

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mrssausage · 23/05/2007 09:51

no angel babies chez sausage

but still

i am going to take the dcs out to get muffin ingredients and we will celebrate

(I tried the virility thing on him btw and he said "do you really think that this is the time or place for that?" )

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LongDistanceClara · 23/05/2007 09:51

Congratulations, MrsS!

Now...we'll all think of ways to help.

OtterInnit · 23/05/2007 09:53

fabulous!
This is having known for 12 hours or whatever
12 days he will be scared but resigned
12 weeks wising he had never said yes! ( as you collapse at 6pm every night due to pg)
12 months - IN LOVE with his new offspring and thinking 'I am so glad'this accident happened to us'

belgo · 23/05/2007 09:53

MrsS -will you out yourself now please? I want to see if I'm right

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mrssausage · 23/05/2007 09:54

oh no i can't

i don't want to disapoint people

i am NEVER the one people think of for things

I will give you a hint though.

i am a weaver of lentils, hence, in part the childcare issues

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lulumama · 23/05/2007 09:55

filly??

belgo · 23/05/2007 09:56

OK! I won't try and guess just in case I am right.

PinkTulips · 23/05/2007 09:56

no i thought filly but i think she posted on the other thread.

aren't her kids older too?