36 week wobble about 2yo DC

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I’m having a big (hormonal?) wobble about how unsettled my 2yo is going to be when baby arrives in a few weeks. She’s started getting really clingy and told me today ‘I want to be Mummy’s baby’
We’ve always spent a lot of time just the two of us as DH works away a lot and we moved to a new area so all my friends locally are mums and we do a lot of activities that are centred around her.
I feel so sad that it’s the last few weeks of our little life, and then so guilty about the new baby as I want to give them everything I’ve given my first.
Please someone tell me that it’s not so bad and it will all be ok!!!

It will all be ok

I was worried about how my 2 year old would react to her little sister as she's always been a mummy's girl. She was fine. Yes, a bit jealous now and then, and crying/being clingy when she knew dd2 needed me, but she was generally gentle and understanding with the baby. In the early weeks I just made sure I gave her lots of extra cuddles, love and reassurance.

Most of what we do is still focused around her tbh, and dd2 just comes along for the ride. I also feel guilty about dd2 not getting the same sort of undivided attention that dd1 had, but she will have other things that dd1 didn't have, like a playmate as she is growing up and someone to look out for her and to learn from.

I would say just enjoy these last few weeks just the two of you but think about when the baby is older and the two of them can play together. And try not to feel too guilty. It will be different with your second due to the toddler, but I would say no better or worse, just different. Don't worry, you'll all be fine.

It'll be fine! It's a nice age gap and they have so much more to gain from a sibling than they stand to lose. I have 21m between 1&2 and there will be 23m between 2&3. Yikes!

Newborns sleep loads and you'll know what you're doing second time round. When DD2 napped during the day I would make a point of spending the time with DD1. When she was awake I used to get DD1 to help me.

Thank you!