Feeling guilty at 5 weeks

[AliceRR]

I recently found out I’m 5 weeks pregnant. DH and I agreed to tell our mothers and also a close family friend of mine and his brother who was visiting. Otherwise we want to wait until at least 12 weeks to make sure everything is ok and not tempt fate (I am slightly superstitious).

Anyway my colleague who sits next to me has already guessed and I just confirmed as couldn’t really say no. She won’t say anything and if I told anyone I felt like telling her. She’s not my work bestie or anything but we are in the same team, air together and she has more recently had kids so I can talk to her about stuff.

But I feel guilty for telling someone! No cause of DH but just worrying what if something goes wrong, have I tempted fate by telling her, have I told the wrong person (she can be a bit odd but don’t think she’s wish me bad in that way)

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You can't 'jinx' anything by telling her, don't worry about that

I told quite a few people having agreed with OH we wouldn't and the only thing that weighed on my mind was the thought of having to tell them all if something went wrong. So in general try to keep it to people you wouldn't mind knowing that. At the end of the day, if you sit with someone all the time then they are probably someone it would be worth knowing either way, as they can support you when you need it. Good luck for your pregnancy xx

Thanks Tiny Terror

She said something like yes it’s best to keep quiet in case something goes wrong and I’m tbinking “don’t say that” although of course I know that and that’s why I want to keep it quiet for now.

She did also say it is a good idea to let one person know at work as when she was pregnant she used to faint and it’s good if someone knows in case you take ill or something.

And it’s actually difficult keeping it from someone you sit next to!

Don't feel guilty. Telling someone doesn't make anything more likely to go wrong.

The reason people often don't tell, is that they don't want to have to "un-tell" people if something goes wrong. I have always told a handful of people before 12 weeks - the people I would want support off if something went wrong, and the people I need some support off right then when I'm feeling awful.

I think it sounds like she is a good person to know - you can ask her questions about pregnancy if you need to, she can help you out if you're feeling sick etc.

It's a very lonely time if no one knows, and if you don't have anyone to ask the 283946397 questions you have about "is this normal?".

Me and my DH agreed not to tell our parents until after the 12 week scan. My mother guessed at 8 weeks, and I couldn’t deny it. These things happen, it’s not your fault.

Thanks ladies

I feel a bit better now x

So just now the gp called me with the number for the midwide self refer team and I wrote it on a post it and accidentally passed it to my secretary with some work...

I just emailed her a funny emoji and she replied saying “I didn’t see, it’s fine” but I’m sure she must have seen!

What is wrong with me?!

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