Other people's children

[FedUpEffedOff]

So I'm FTM, 28 wks and sitting in the maternity day unit at the moment, waiting to have my glucose test.

The place - unsurprisingly - is overrun with toddlers. And I really don't think they are cute. They are very annoying. And the screams are piercing.

Please tell me if you hate kids you'll feel differently about your own?!

There was a post about this recently, perhaps in the AIBU section, and the general view was even if you don’t like other people’s children you’ll love your own!

Other, from being in the same situation at my antenatal appointments, you are seeing children at their worst because they don’t want to be in the waiting room any more than you do.

I really don't like children in general. Even my nieces and nephews, although I love them dearly and if they need a kidney I'm here :)

Currently pregnant with my 4th child. It's definitely different when you have your own.

Other = Also

Yes it's different, but my own hates waiting rooms (as do I) so it's not a good example of typical behaviour, more like a caged animal, she behaves while she's being fed but when the food runs out she wants to leave or get herself into trouble.

I always find other people's kids so badly behaved, dragged up, a bit on the feral side.
I am certain other people find my kids to be exactly the same.

Other people's kids are annoying because in many cases they fail to discipline them and let them misbehave. When I encounter genuinely well behaved kids it's always a pleasure. Sadly they are in the minority.

Not everyone elses' children are badly behaved.

I was in a queue once with this kid around 4 quietly helping his mum with the shopping and patiently waiting in line. Three tills away were a couple of other children in the same age group who were shrieking and generally making a rack. Everyone looked over, and the quiet kid's face was one of complete shock and bewilderment.

32 weeks now... Still cannot stand other people's children. So annoying, so loud.

I'm sure I'll love my own!!

You notice the annoying ones more.

Before I had kids I would have said similar to you, but now I try to be a bit more neutral. I was in a waiting room yesterday (pregnant) and there were some kids in there. Some were quiet, some noisy. But I know how exhausting it is to have to haul yourself to these appointments, never mind when you have older children too. I’m not saying it’s ok they were making a noise, but it’s easy to be dismissive when it’s not you dealing with it.
Tbh, I find my own being noisy pretty annoying.

I'm 26 weeks and really hoping I like him because I can't stand other people's children 😂