I've hit the 'everyone can fuck off' stage

[jamoncrumpets]

39+1 today with DC2. ELCS scheduled for a week today but we're hoping it might get moved forward a bit.

Pregnancy has been shit, from start to finish, and I've been left with mental and physical issues as a result. In laws could not give less of a shit and contact has been sparse at best.

But today I've had four texts from various in-law family members along the lines of 'Any news? Anything happening?'

I'm ignoring them. Firstly, of COURSE I will let them know when something is happening. Secondly, they KNOW I'm having an ELCS, and that if I were to go into labour spontaneously it'd actually be pretty much my nightmare scenario. Thirdly, I'd have appreciated such regular contact during some of the very dark and difficult times in the last nine months, but it just wasn't there.

So they can text away. But I'm not replying.

Personally I would delete +block. Leave dh to deal with them.

Mostly wanted to reply to say I'm 39+1 today as well!

But yes I would just ignore and let DH reply if required

I actually bought a different sim card for similar reasons. It worked a treat !! New number but no one knew it

39+1 is shite isn't it?! Mind you, 41+1 would be utterly maddening.

My days are mostly spent panicking about going into spontaneous labour atm. It's hell.

i would ask your OH to contact them if anything and explain how you're feeling, make them feel bad! this is supposed to be such an exciting time in your life where your family and friends fuss over you and the baby, so for them to be like that is heartbreaking xx

It’s so annoying when people text right at the end or start to make an effort when they find out your pregnant ! It does my head in I have a in law that does this and oh my god I get so angry, never likes any of my posts usually on insta Facebook but when she found out I was pregnant and put I pics up of my bump all the likes come in and then comments like ‘I can’t wait so excited’ makes me so angry I just ignore it! And with my first i was soo overprotective I was really poorly and he was a month early and didn’t want anyone near my baby for weeks, I think I’ll be the same with this one too the way I’m feeling about some people! Trouble with me is I’ll end up telling her because my patience is so thin and I’m only 20 weeks haha !!

You should ignore it too people aren’t worth it try not to stress (easier said than done)
Good luck with baby hopefully not much longer for you x

I was so tempted to reply 'Yes, baby girl born last night weighing 8lbs 2oz. Photos will follow!
Then when they get in a strop 'I would then send them a text saying 'I know you are looking forward to little one arriving, I am too, I will let you know shen anything happens. Please bare in mind I am tired, uncomfortable and waiting myself so please stop asking you bloody eejits

That would be fricking awesome Iputthescrew I wish I had the balls to do that. At 39+5 I've just started passive aggressively ignoring of MIL and DMs phone calls every morning.

They ring when toddler DC1 is napping, i.e the only time of day I can actually get anything done and although neither of them want to talk for longer than about 15 - 20 mins each, between the two of them they are taking up at least 30 mins of the only productive hour I get every morning. They know this and yet still do it.

I've started 'napping', 'showering' or doing noisy activities like drying my hair or vacuuming around peak call time so I don't hear the phone (we can only be contacted on the landline so easy enough to 'miss' calls) .

@pastabest I have had my DCs now, I really wished I had the guts to do it. I thought about it so many times! I remember having my first I had texts god knows how many times a day. I was 9 days late.
When I did go into labour I had contractions every minute for 82 hours. I was exhausted, I couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, barely had anything to drink. I had a million texts asking if I had baby yet, but the worse text I had was from a friend saying 'hurry up and push already I want to meet your baba' I lost my temper! My phone went up the wall. I am usually a calm person.
Dd2 and 3 my phone went onto silent. I did a group text once a day saying no signs. My mum and dad would call but they never once asked, they just sympathised with my moaning that DP was annoying me cos his snoring became unbearable...ooh I despised him sleeping all comfortably with a flat belly!

I really want somebody to tell people they had the baby, and post reactions and responses!

Beauty of a landline is you can leave it off the hook when you do not want to be disturbed.
My mum was a pain in the arse the last couple of weeks of my pg with ds1. Wasn't at all interested in dc2 if it's any consolation....

Slightly different but I feel like this already and only 32 weeks... Patience at work is especially at an all time low... Trying not not get fired in the last 4 weeks at work

This is DC2! I just want them all to leave me alone!

Oh I remember this feeling well with DD. I'm getting it already with this pregnancy, even though I have 12 weeks to go and I'm having an ELCS - all I keep getting asked is 'have you got your date yet?' And 'when will it be?'.

It'll be 39 weeks or thereabouts but I'm not bloody telling anyone!

If I were having another baby (I'm not!) I would so lie about my due date by a good three or for weeks I think!

Hang in there OP. Not long now. In the meantime, if you've got an iPhone you can block individual numbers then u block them again when our feel like it.

I hear you! I'm 39+5 and keep having this conversation

Them: how are you, any sign of baby yet?
Me: no, she's not even making the slightest effort, she won't be any time soon, getting a bit fed up now
Them: well, you can't hurry these things, she'll come when she's ready

I FUCKING KNOW!!

Baby isn't engaged, have no signs of labour, I'm prepared for her to have to be poked out against her will at 42 weeks. You can tell people this until you're blue in the face but you still get the fucking wind up messages!

We have said to family, we will let you know if I go into labour and again when the baby is born, somehow what they've heard is, if you don't ask repeatedly it's very likely that we'll have had the baby weeks ago and not bothered to tell you.