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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Pretty sure I'm miscarrying at 7 weeks :'(

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Spooples · 09/06/2018 10:43

I'm absolutely devastated. I'm currently 7 weeks exactly. For the past 13 days I've been having brown discharge. I went for a scan 11 days ago where they told me they could see the gestational sac but no yolk sac or embryo. I should have been 5+3 but they said it looked closer to 4 so told me to come back in 2 weeks for a follow up (next Tuesday)...

Then 3 days ago the brown discharge got heavier and stringy but was still brown, until yesterday. When I woke up yesterday it was bright red so immediately went back to the EPU.

While waiting to be seen I went to the loo again and there was a HUGE amount of red blood. Like a heavy period. I went to the loo again an hour later (still waiting to be seen) and it was back to brown.

Had my scan and the doctor said it had developed since the last appointment (10 days before and could see a yolk sac and small embryo (only 1.5mm) but no heart beat. She told me to come back for another follow up in a week.

She said it could either be a pregnancy that isn't going to progress, or that I ovulated late and am consistently measuring small. However, from the measurements I think it's over a week small (maybe closer to two!) and the last time we had sex was only 1 day after I think I ovulated so I don't feel like it can be that far behind!

I had one more less-heavy red bleed after the scan, then a coffee-ground like brown bleed, then back to the same brown ive had for nearly 2 weeks.

Overnight has cramps like a period which are still going on. Not agonisingly painful but noticeable.

This morning, went for a number 2 and had more red bleeding with clots but nothing that looks like a sac.

I am so devastated. I have to wait a whole nother week to find out for sure and am clinging on to hope that it might be OK BUT it's the combination of having red bleeding, cramps, and a foetus and sac measuring way smaller than it should with no heartbeat.

I feel absolutely broken. I want this baby so much :( has anyone experienced anything similar? How did you cope? :'(

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amyddss · 09/06/2018 10:48

I am so sorry you're going through this. Try not to worry too much until you have been seen again. I know it's easier said than done but wait until you absolutely know for sure what's going on. Sending you big hugs x

Spooples · 09/06/2018 11:51

Thank you Amy. I can't stop crying :( I know it's early and these things happen but I just feel so low. I've had barely any symptoms and no morning sickness so have been worried for a while that something might be wrong but it just feels like such a blow.

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Blissfulignorance · 09/06/2018 11:59

So sorry that you're going through this, my experience was similar but didn't end well I'm afraid 😢. The emotional pain was awful but I did get trough it.
I had brown discharge etcher 7+4 had a scan and saw a heartbeat, I relaxed then the next day lots of cramps and huge bleed. I continued to bleed for a few more days until a week later at my rescan it showed I'd miscarried. The worst thing I have ever experienced.

However almost a year later I'm 28 weeks pregnant with a very healthy baby.

I hope you have a different outcome but if not please give yourself time to hurt and heal. It will happen for you. Nothing anyone can say will make you feel better, it just takes time. Send I got love and I have my fingers crossed for you.

schoolworrier · 09/06/2018 12:13

Flowers for you op. When this happened to me I coped by being nice to myself (lots of treats) and focused on trying again. It wasn't easy and I was very sad but I now have a sleepy DC in my arms. I hope you have your take home baby soon too x

schoolworrier · 09/06/2018 12:15

I also had a successful pregnancy with lots of bleeding so it doesn't always mean the worst!

miki123 · 09/06/2018 13:45

School, just wanted you to know I’m thinking of you. I had several miscarriages and felt that the hardest part was always not knowing one way or the other. You WILL get through this and we’re all here to support you. Big big hugs xxx

Spooples · 09/06/2018 15:40

Yeah I'm now sure I'm miscarrying :'( I've had cramps all day (I havent even gotten cramps with my periods for the last 10 years) and am still bleeding red clotty blood. All my (very minor) symptoms have gone. I feel absolutely dead inside and can't stop crying

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LouiseD2018 · 09/06/2018 20:09

So sorry spooples. Make sure you get follow up checks, people do bleed during pregnancy, some turn out ok, some don't.
Look after yourself, take things one day at a time xx

Spooples · 10/06/2018 16:44

Last night was horrendous. Absolutely awful cramps and losing buckets of blood. The cramps have almost gone today but still bleeding heavily.

I'm convinced I've miscarried and I've woken up today just 'not feeling pregnant'. I have a scan on Friday booked anyway so will still go to that to see if it's all passed, but there is no way the foetus could have survived this amount of bleeding.

I feel devastated and exhausted emotionally but feel a bit different today as though I've accepted my fate. I still feel its the worst thing that's ever happened to me but I'm accepting that it's real today whereas yesterday I was clinging onto hope.

I'm convinced it was a boy and that there is something wrong with boys in my family: I am one of 3 girls and my mum miscarried. My mum was one of three girls and her sister miscarried then had 2 girls. My gran was one of only girls. I'm sure we can't carry boys :( this scares me so much and makes me feel like I've got at least 50 percent chance of miscarrying. :(

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RNaoxx · 10/06/2018 21:29

Massive hugs to you, I’m also 7 weeks and going through the exact same situation. I’ve got a scan in the morning and I’m absolutely dreading it because I know what they’re going to tell me. If you need a chat I’m only a message away xxxxx

Spooples · 10/06/2018 21:38

I'm so sorry RNaoxx :( ill be thinking of you tomorrow, and I hope you'll be alright. Let me know how the scan goes. I understand exactly how you feel, and I really do believe that we will survive this nightmare, and it will make us stronger people xxx

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DailyMailDontStealMyThread · 10/06/2018 21:44

Massive online support to all that are going through this. Look after yourself first and best wishes with everything else

Rozzzzzalmost35 · 11/06/2018 20:57

I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this. I had a mc in February last year at 8 weeks and I now have a four month old boy. I'm convinced my mc was a girl. I only had a small amount of brown discharge and only tiny cramps but baby was measuring three weeks behind at that stage. My last pregnancy I had bleeding about four times and no pregnancy symptoms at all and he is a happy healthy wee boy. Thinking of you xx

Spooples · 12/06/2018 15:19

Bad news :( EPU scanned us and confirmed we've lost the baby. It kills me to write this and I'm in floods of tears, but I wanted to update as when I was googling frantically and found threads similar to my experience, it was frustrating when the OP never followed up. Hopefully this is at least useful to someone in the future, and hopefully they have a better outcome.

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QuestionableMouse · 12/06/2018 15:22

I'm so sorry.

mossyroundhill · 12/06/2018 15:35

So sorry to see your update OP. I’ve had an MMC and it really is devastating. I’m holding you in my thoughts right now Flowers
I know it is really early to say, but when we lost our baby we had him buried under an olive tree in our garden. I still find having him there a huge comfort, maybe planting something in your babies memory is something you could do when you feel a little stronger. Like I said, it’s so early but maybe it will be of some help in the future.

Rozzzzzalmost35 · 12/06/2018 22:00

I'm so sorry to hear this xx

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