Pregnancy hormones or I'm just petty?

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This is super petty, but I'm honestly upset.

I'm 34 Weeks pregnant. Father or child is a waste, made no effort and I've not enjoyed much of my pregnancy due to stress.

Recently I've finally being getting really excited and hyped.
My plan today was to wash all of his clothes get them all ready and sorted, and prepared. I still live with my parents (26 can't afford to leave with it just being me and baby now)
So, we (mum and I) sorted out all the colours and stuff yesterday and I said - this will do me good and keep me busy tomorrow'.
I've come done stairs this morning, she was up super early and she's done it all.
Everything.
I need to do nothing.
I'm grateful. I really am.
But also really upset.... I feel like I'm being a bitch
I don't even want to be angry or upset with her about it, but I am. Because I feel that doing that little task of washing would make me feel a little more excited.

I hate that I'm annoyed and upset by it. Because I am grateful and I felt bad when I saw her face because she saw how bothered I was :(

My dad was like you can still iron them. I feel so petty.

I think I would of been upset too tbh , organising the clothes would of felt satisfying and that you were getting closer to being ready. And also I think I would feel like she was trying to take over things

I'm going to say hormonal - which is completely acceptable at 34 weeks! Your Mum was just trying to help (personally I'd be more than happy for the help, but I'm not particularly sentimental about things like that). Just kindly tell her that next time you'd like to do it yourself or maybe even together.

I bloody wish my mum would/could do that. She died just before mg baby arrived. I think you're hormonal! But nesting is a real thing. I'm sure you can sort some other stuff out.

Whist I personally could never get upset about about someone doing my washing, I can totally see why it’s upset you. That’s only one part of the job though, the next thing is to take it all to the baby’s room and put it away. It might help organising the drawers etc if you haven’t done it already and picturing what it’s going to be like when you have the baby and are getting them ready everyday if you see what I mean? I rearranged my sons chest of drawers a good few times before he was born (now it’s a result if things go in it rather than on it!)

I’m sorry your pregnancy has been tough but it sounds like you’ve got great (if a bit exasperating!) support around you.

Your mum meant well trying to help you by washing all the clothes taking stress of you but you r upset cos it was something you wanted to do. Maybe say thankyou to her for doing it but jus say you was looking for it.

Whist I personally could never get upset about about someone doing my washing* - this honestly made me chuckle (because I didn't ever think I would too lol)*

I know she's being helpful and I really do think it's lovely of her, I just feel really emotional over it. I've been sitting crying about it away from her because I don't want her to feel she's upset me. (Because tbh i know I'll have more things to prepare as someone has said)

I've only ever had stress and worry through it all. Stressing about the dad and only ever crying over that, now I'm over that. (And much more relaxed) I find that I'm seeing what pregnant women mean when they say they can be so over sensitive.

She was trying to be nice but got it wrong. You’re hormonal. Just let her know when you 100% want to do something yourself next time. I didn’t wash any new clothes before DD was born. I didn’t see the point and she was fine.